So my wife and I got into a big argument over my SD's 12 and 14. SD 14 is rude and clearly doesnt care for the man I am because Im not her real dad. I understand the whole going through teen years but the way she is acting towards me is not the cause of that. My wife doesnt want me to correct the girls and just let her do the parenting on them but we also have a son together he is 4. So I tend to put all of my focus on my son and give him all of me. This is where the fights start. I told my wife i am puting all my energy into my son because there is uncondional love between him and I. I can correct him one minute and 5 mins later he is over it and wanting dad. The girls get pissed off and hold grudges and look at me like how dare you when i have to try and correct them. My wife said Im wrong for not holding all 3 kids to the same standard of love. So I broke it down like this. If you were to put Me their mother and bio dad in a row who would be first? Bio mom Bio dad then me. Soooo Why put time and energy into a no win,when my son wants all of dad. Also, she puts conditions on the way i can help raise them and Im not to correct them only her. So there to me is conditional love being ask of me. I understand Im the adult and should make the effort not the kids but 7 years of this is enough. I love my wife and want to be together but Im not going to catch hell for loving my son unconditionaly. Am I wrong??