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Halloween Fun(insert sarcasm here)

chellebelle143's picture

So our little town designates the Sunday before Halloween as Trick or Treat Day. We live on the opposite side of town as BM, yet low and behold I run into BM and SS in our neighborhood. I say hey to SS, and he has this horrible look of guilt on his face, when he says hi back. Then he looks at the ground, until we pass him. I really do hate this, I hate the fact that he feels so conflicted he can't say hi, without feeling bad. It drives me up the wall. Not to mention I noticed he isn't animated at all, he is very animated little boy when he is with us.He seemed so sad, it really broke my heart.

We continue on, and then we run into SS 15 y/o half sister. Here it is 45 degrees outside and she is dressed like a bimbo, in the shortest Daisy Dukes I have ever seen. She is with her little friends, and they basically kept following us. It really pissed me off, but I just ignored it.

You know I have really tried to be nice, last year I even sent ss half sister a halloween pail filled with goodies. I told SS to ask BM if she would bring him by on halloween that year ,and that we had something special for him. Did she show then, NO. We get sick of the petty little things she does like this. We try to just ignore it, but ya know at times it is really hard. Especially when you see directly how uncomfortable being put in situations like that make SS feel.

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Chocoholic's picture

I know EXACTLY how you feel.
It is hard to maintain your composure when a parent (step or bio) is making the children feel like that and you are witnessing it firsthand. Your SS sounds just like my bio son in the way he feels and acts while in the other house. He is NOT himself, not as happy or full of life.... it is really hard to see that side of him.

Between my bio and step kids we have only 1 child (out of the 4) who is lucky enough to have 2 sets of parents who don't play these games....

My daughter is the product of my ex-dh and I and she is the ONLY child that is not made to feel conflicted.... She is the ONLY child that has bio and step parents who all care enough NOT to play games.... she is the ONLY child free to love ALL of her parents. She is lucky enough to have 2 sets of great parents and not a one of us would choose to hurt her.... Not only do we condone her love for all of her parents but we ENCOURAGE it!

I can't understand anyone making a child feel that they should have to choose, or that they shouldn't love someone.... can't they see what they are doing to the kids?

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