I have been trying to think of how to post what I’m feeling. What questions to ask? How to explain my situation... Is it sad that I want bioM to get full custody just so I get a legitimate break from my SS? He is 5 going on 6 and is not in school. We have had him a lot over the past 2 years since there is no custody agreement it’s whatever works for bioM, but it’s like he completely regresses in every way possible when he goes to bioM for an extended period of time. He is aggressive, towards other children, towards adults, it really doesn’t matter who you are to him, his parents included. It seems like every time we get him to be more respectful, he comes back hateful. We get him on track for learning his alphabet and starting to write without the dotted lines, he comes back with the idea that he if he doesn’t want to sit down and learn, which he doesn’t, then he doesn’t have to. That turns education time into a big scene and wastes so much time. I hate feeling like this, but I really want to just have minimal visitation once he starts school, she would never give us full custody. We live in separate states so every other weekend is hard.... idk what to do anymore. I use to work with him every single day that we had him, but it’s like the older he gets, the more he thinks “mommy said” backs up his poor decisions. And she literally will. She has told my DH not to make him do his letter, he will learn when he is ready, don’t make him eat at dinner, he will eat when he is hungry, don’t turn off the TV, he will fall asleep when he is tired, we don’t allow him to say “what the heck” because we just feel like that should be in our five year olds vocabulary, she says he is allowed to say it ( as if she dictates what is acceptable language in our home)...don’t go visit my family if he says he doesn’t want to go, that’s forcing them on him which is selfish of us (even though they have accepted my SS as family since the day my DH and I got together, and not to mention they are my DD bio family)... I love my DH, but Idk if I can go 13 more years with this B****.

BioM is a SM as well, dealing with a bioM just like her, you would think that that would make her look at our realationship differently, but nope!!!!

I know that I’m all over the place with this post, but any advice is gladly accepted