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Submitted by cenrok on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 12:27pm

I have been with a man for 7 years that has a 10 year old daughter. BM lives 5 hours away and has her only during summer & Christmas vacation etc...

I know that this man is a package deal. We used to take time for each other and have dinner, or a movie, or go away quite often. Now, he will get a sitter for his daughter (10) when he wants to do things, or go away for week-ends with his buddies.

As you moms out there know, most women don't get away that often, so I use to keep her with me when he went. But, I've stopped offering to keep her as much because I am resentful of it.

Still, we rarely get to do things without without her together anymore.

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Submitted by lm862003 on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 12:34pm

Boundaries are important and over time these things have a tendency to get away from us. Have you talked with your man about this issue?

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Submitted by cenrok on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 12:47pm

We do not have children together. He wanted to, but I decided I did not want any more children.

I have raised two sons of my own. They live on their own, but they still come over quite often (one mostly to work on his car in the garage LOL). My other son is disabled, so I do quite a bit with him.

I have set the boundries in that I refuse to have her all of the time, and tie me down. I haven't really talked to him aboout it. More choosing just to try to find more things to keep me busy.