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screaming BM --- what the hell do ya do???

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Submitted by cenrok on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 11:19am

Saturday morning we were getting ready to head out of town just the two of us for an overnight get away. I heard SD10 telling BM that she was staying with a sitter over night. Next thing I hear DH outside on his cell phone, BM was screaming so loud I could hear her inside the house. BM lives two states away, and has SD only during the summer. She accused us of never doing "anything" with SD. 3 weekends ago, we took SD snowmobiling, had a bonfire & roasted hot dogs.

Am I being selfish to stay?

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Submitted by cenrok on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 10:45pm

I have been with a man for 7 years who is very good to me. We have a great time together. I stay and spend a great deal of time with them, but I do not want to move in full time with them. I have raised my children, and do not want to raise his 10 year old daughter. I am respectful of her, I do things with her like baking & shopping, we all go fishing & camping. But I feel no bond to her. I'm not very lovey to her. And would really rather not have her around. She just wears on my nerves. And I know the teen years will be hell. We have her during the school year.

Man time

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Submitted by cenrok on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 12:27pm

I have been with a man for 7 years that has a 10 year old daughter. BM lives 5 hours away and has her only during summer & Christmas vacation etc...

I know that this man is a package deal. We used to take time for each other and have dinner, or a movie, or go away quite often. Now, he will get a sitter for his daughter (10) when he wants to do things, or go away for week-ends with his buddies.

A new twist - just for fun

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Submitted by cenrok on Thu, 02/24/2011 - 10:21pm

My guy of 7 years is headed on a "all guys" snowmobile trip next weekend. I suppose I would be expected to stay with the SD (10 years old) - like I have so many times in the past. Which I have gotten resentful of. But I am no longer making myself a convenient sitter. I am making plans to go with a couple of my gal friends for that weekend. I told him I would not be around that week-end either. Shocking! I will not be home to watch the SD. Ahhh, how nice it is to be just the Step Mom - and say guess YOU will have to find a sitter!