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BM likes to 'play' mommy

caya506's picture

Submitted by caya506 on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 1:47pm

It seems that lately BM is only ever really interested in having SS with her when she gets to 'play' mommy around other people.

She's constantly telling my BF how she can't handle SS, she can't stand to have him around, that BF should just keep him, dumps him off frequently with us, if SS is sick BF is the one to take care of him, etc. However when she gets to go out into public with him, and other people, and show how 'great' of a mother she is, she jumps all over it. It's especially irritating when she tries to pull this crap on BF's time. Last Saturday she wanted SS (it was BF's week) so she, SS, her friend and friends kid could go to a pumpkin patch. She asked this one day after she asked BF to pick SS up early because she 'just couldn't tolerate him anymore that week', nice. BF told her to go fly a kite. That she could take him if she wanted to on her own weekend. of course she blew a gasket and flipped out on him, but whatever, not his problem. Then last night she asks if she can have SS on the Wednesday of BF's next week (2 weeks away) for a play-date. Again, he told her no, schedule your stuff on your own time. And again, she gets all pissy and mad. Why?? It's not your week, why are you scheduling stuff on his time anyway?? Stupid woman.

It seems that she likes the attention that being a mother can bring sometimes, but doesn't care to have to deal with the nitty gritty stuff that comes from being an ACTUAL parent. It's so irritating.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 1:53pm

She's a STAGE mom! Smile That's what I call it, anyway. BM does this all the time too -- if she's not going to be getting "credit" (ah hem, have witnesses) for doing MOM things then she won't do it.

God forbid she stay at home with her sick child for a day, because the only witness to that would be her Facebook status.

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Submitted by B on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 3:20pm

My Ex-H was like that. I used to call him a "photo-op Dad". He was never interested in spending time with our kids, only if it was some kind of event and other people were going to be around....

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Submitted by halfstepmom2skids on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 3:37pm

Our pastor actually called it "Convenience Children", it was a glorious moment when he said this to DH during one of our couseling sessions. They have shared custody, but thats only cuz its convenient for dad to not have to pay CS and mom gets to go to bars all the time and live like a little whore. Poor kids have no stability and it absolutely kills me.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 4:08pm

Yes-bm had the stage role down pat back when ss lived with us fulltime. She would attend perhaps one game each season of whatever his activity he was in and sit in the stands and yell, "That's my boy!" if he did something even remotely good. The hilarious thing is that noone had any idea who the hell she was because the only 'mom' they ever saw ss with was me! I actually felt a little sorry for her that she so pathetically needed to lay claim to her son in front of a bunch of strangers.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 4:16pm

OMG, I just had a flashback to all the skids activities we've been to. BM will sit in an area with her parents, siblings and nieces/nephews and scream, clap, cheer for my skids. Not that that is a BAD thing, but I remember when my poor SS was going up to bat and RIGHT BEFORE the pitcher threw the ball, BM's dad had to yell something. Poor SS totally whiffed his hit.

I was all for supporting my DS in his activities, but I sure as heck didn't bring my extended FAMILY to help cheer!