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Submitted by catz58 on Fri, 04/26/2013 - 4:59pm

I have four adult skids,all over the age of 20yrs old,and they all have lived with us at one time or another and one is still living with us and its the boy.I have put up with drugs,drinking,lying,taking my things not cleaning up after themselves going behind back talking bad about me trying to get other family members not to like me.There dad has been married after there parents divorced,and then he divorced her,they couldn't stand her either they even said they hated her and now its my turn we have been together for 8yrs now.I have tried my best to be friends with them and I have told them many many times that I am not trying to replace there mother.When the other two skids come over to visit they act like (oh its so nice to see you again like I'm there best friend)but then they sit here and talk about there dads past wife like I"M not even here!and talk about there mom and not spending family time together and how much fun it was when he was with the second wife but mind u that hated her right.I really don't know what to do at this point and time I am very much in love with there dad,but I don't know when enough is enough.

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Submitted by oldone on Fri, 04/26/2013 - 6:42pm

They sound like such a lovely addition to your life. (sarcasm)

Boot them all out permanently. Be civil and polite when you must see them. But forget about being friendly. Do you really want to be close to these "things". Have your DH socialize with them off site when possible.

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Submitted by catz58 on Sat, 04/27/2013 - 5:03pm

see what they want is there dad to be single so just maybe there dad will get back with the mom he has told them many times that will never happen.they try many ways to get them to spend time together.See they don't like me because I always catch them in lies his son brings the drugs and beer in the house and I find it and tell his dad I also have told the son myself that if he don't want it to be my business then don't bring it into my house that this is not just there dads house its mine too! they all still act like children not adults. thank god the 4th child lives far away lol.we have thought about moving far away to but they all come down on him about that so I'm sure that will never happen.I am just very fed up with them and have been for sometime. I have two grown kids of my own see and they both have lives of there own never interfere with mine. so when I got with him its like well they will all grownup and move on soon boy was I wrong.I no I don't want to be friends with them anymore but I am still civil with them when they come around just to make there dad happy so we don't fight about them but they sure try to make us fight all the time I don't let it happen hahaha!