Let's Add More Medical Conditions to the List
Some of you may recall from my previous blogs, a few years ago, BM claimed that SS was diagnosed with ADHD following SS' rejection from the gifted and talented program at school. SS had never presented signs of any form of attention deficit or hyperactivity and DH and I both refuted the diagnosis. BM was very unforthcoming with any information pertaining to the diagnosis; just that SS' pediatrician (who BM refused to disclose the name of) diagnosed SS. DH never received medical documentation confirming this diagnosis, SS never took medication or received any form of treatment, and the only real outcome of this "diagnosis" was a note added in SS' academic record. After said "diagnosis," BM wanted DH to pay $800 for her and her GF to attend an 8-week parenting seminar for "raising a child with special needs." DH outright refused. We never heard mention of the diagnosis again, especially as SS started receiving accolades in school.
Since giving birth to our daughter two weeks ago, BM has been radio silent. Today, BM emailed DH to inform him that her and GF have noticed a "toe walking habit" in recent weeks and believe that SS now has a sensory processing disorder. Based on this, BM and GF have signed SS up for OT services starting next week... OK BM. I have a brother on the autism spectrum who actually has a sensory processing disorder. For starters, you don't just develop a sensory processing issue overnight and you certainly don't develop one randomly at 10 years old. Second, OT services are not just rendered, you have to have a referral from a doctor based on medical need, which based on her email, BM doesn't have. DH looked up the clinic location that BM provided in the email and while it is a therapeutic center, it also offers open gym hours and hosts birthday parties. DH and I are betting that BM just signed SS up for open gym claiming it as "OT." Personally, if SS does have a toe walking issue, I believe it could be a sports injury or an issue related to a growth spurt since he is right around that age. I mean heck, the kid is in year-round athletics with only single day to one week breaks in between sport seasons; it is highly likely that his body just can't keep up. I wonder what BM's angle is this time and I wonder how much it is going to cost us...
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Sounds as if BM is butthurt
Sounds as if BM is butthurt about her ex having a new baby, so she's trumped up some drama to get attention.
Ignore the whore.
She just wants attention
Since you and your Dh had the baby. There isn't anything actually going on with SS that she can use to get attention from your DH so now she's trying to disguise something as a medical issue so she stays relevant and to take attention away from the new baby.
so ridiculous
DH just responded "Thanks for
DH just responded "Thanks for the update. Please keep me posted" and left it at that. He's not playing her games.
That is good!
When BM sends info like this we also just say to keep us updated. It is the best way to acknowledge it was received, but not open a can of worms either
BM is manufacturing drama.My
BM is manufacturing drama.
My oldest had a diagnosed medical toe walking issue. The correct service for that issue is PT. And since it is a medical issue, insurance pays for PT. Unless BM can produce a doctor referral for OT, DH should not pay a penny of this.
I 100% agree. I also told DH
I 100% agree. I also told DH that the correct course of action for this would be PT, not OT. BM is stupid because she knows my undergraduate degree was in OT (before I pursued a Master's in something else), so clearly I would know. DH already said he will not pay for it until she produces medical documentation and an insurance bill; DH is going to follow the CO as far as reimbursement for out-of-pocket medical goes.
Jeez....
I should not be stunned about the depths some of these idiotic BMs go to but I always am. Here you are, new born to take care of and she's needing attention so uses her kid. Im sorry. Glad your DH responded the way he did.
Good Grief, your BM is a PITA...
Have your DH send her some links about Munchhausen Syndrome, also send her links about too much sports not being good for the kid.. Some of the the sports trainers guidelines state that kids should not be practicing more hours than their age per week. If the kid is 10, then they should not do more than 10 hours of sports per week. Trainers also say that kids should have at least 2 days a week with no sports.
Yeah BM has sole legal and
Yeah BM has sole legal and physical custody due to DH and BM never being married/teen parents. We took BM to court two years ago and the judge sided with BM, giving DH no more than 6 weeks of visitation per year (long distance) DUE TO SPORTS. BM has had SS enrolled in year-round sports ever since as a way to minimize visitation/maximize CS. We have tried talking to BM about sports and SS' overinvolvement, arguing that SS needs a balanced life and 24/7 sports isnt good for him... it goes in one ear and out the other, leads to emotional abuse and gaslighting, and ends with a "I have sole custody and you don't, so what I say goes" comment. DH has just learned to just follow the CO and let BM do whatever, because let's face it, she's going to do whatever she wants regardless.
So many parallels!
I've read a few of your posts and - first of all, CONGRATULATIONS! So happy for you, your DH and your newborn! I am a little over a month away from delivery currently and am also at risk of pre-eclampsia. And BM in my case also decided it is the PERFECT time to file for custody/child support mod. BM's never been the nicest to me, but she went full-on foe when marrried her new wife (NW). NW is well versed in playing the system and her main source of income appears to be various streams of CS and welfare. NW also PUSHED SD to get into sports and until I read your post, I didn't think much of it. I thought it was a positive thing for SD to have this new outlet - and at a base level, it is. But, the level of participation they have her at is excessive - thinking back and connecting the dots it definitely seems like a plotted move. UGH are all they all reading the same handbook?!
Typical biomum realised your husband is busy with your newborn
So of course she needs to make their kid relevant, just anything to take attention off your newborn to prove their kid always comes first and is more important.
hubbys exwife pulled the same crap except in our case sd's had ceased contact 5 plus yrs over lies she made up that they knew were lies and then she has eldest sd who was 22/23 re-initiate contact with dad and demand daddy transfer a home into skids names only because biomum didn't want her husband of some 9 yrs to claim that property as joint marital property. Then sd reminded hubby he owed them cs for life/indefinitely like she wasn't capable of being independent and getting a job.
they always invented some non emergent emergency whilst we were on holiday and it was always just so hubby could prove they were more important or relevant.
they all pull the same crap. Keep it short and simple. No reimbursement without a dr letter confirming the diagnosis and referral to specialist and a specialist confirming skid has said medical condition and must go to a insurance preferred covered specialist. If dr does a referral letter claiming its bio mum concerned and specialist confirms nothing is wrong, no reimbursement to biomum.