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You don't understand it no matter HOW I explain it, so stop tryin to make sense of it!

cant win for losin's picture

I just get frustrated going over and over and over the whole "explanation" of the whole damn story.

"i don't understand why you can't just....."

be a family all together.
try harder.
try again.
keep trying.
try some more.

"all you need to do is....."

"have you tried...."

"well, i know if it was me, I would have...."

BLAH BLAH and fucking blah!
Don't talk to me if you have NEVER been apart of a blended family. ESPECIALLY if you haven't been apart of it on the step side. Oh yea, it's real frickin easy to say that shit mr. outsider with your intact family. With your priorities all in order where your wife and family comes first before your mom and dad. I don't get to experience that so called "luxary" MY partner is guilt driven by all his decisions. I cannot change that, don't you think I have tried?

What's that mr. outsider? You don't understand what I am getting all upset about? Probably because you are offering unsolicited advice, and unresonable solutions to MY problems that you know NOTHING about. And a piece of advice for YOU mr. outsider, just because you know someone who knows someone who knows someone who had a kid who had a step parent and they all got along like they were B-fucking FF's doesn't mean that everyone else who DOESN'T have that happy ending is doin something wrong!

okay rant over! ha

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Over_that_tude's picture

Of course, you know every one will have a solution to your problem. They can always forsee how it "should" all go. They understand the dynamics that you are living with. Sometimes I feel the very people that pass judgment, telling me what I should, could, and ought to do are the same people with shitty circumstances themselves. It's always easy to get up on a soap box when in reality you are up there as you are trying to climb above your own mess.

Yet, we still seek advice, we still hope someone understands so we can feel like we are not going crazy and imagining all of this craziness around us!

I know we come here or share with friends and family sometimes to simply vent and get it out of our heads, but some people will not let that happen. They will always analyze your dilemma and try to fit it into a box that is familiar to them or someone they know.

Good luck with your situation...

Clearly An Upgrade's picture

Overthat: Wow, that was a very insightful post. I had an amazing epiphany about several of the people I deal with after reading this. It applies in so many situations. Well said.

cant win for losin's picture

ahh, thanks. Yes I agree with what you are saying.

Mr. Outsider just had a little too much of a ball of "optimism" wrapped in a pretty little bow for me last night! Drove me nuts!

While I would love to continue to be so optimistic, this person is a little, no wait, quite a bit on the naive side to the world. I'm not talkin in just a step situation either.