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Submitted by c-mom on Sat, 08/26/2017 - 8:14pm

Gosh, it feels good to finally have somebody in the inner circle validate my efforts around here.

I asked my husband if I could re-commit myself to him this coming March to which he of course replied "Yes."

I then asked SS 14 if at that ceremony I could re-commit to him as his step-mom. He teared up and replied, "I wish you would. But not as my step-mom. As my mom. Because you're the only mom I've ever had and the best one I could ever have."

:jawdrop:

My cup runneth over. Even if SD 18 can never shake the brainwashing from BM due to her learning disabilities, just to hear that from the one of them who is capable of logical thinking skills has filled my heart and renewed my desire to always put my life on the line for these kids even during the times that they may not deserve it.

SD will still never be allowed to come home because she is too much of a danger to the other children, but I will actively seek out ways to begin once again to go to bat for her from afar.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sat, 08/26/2017 - 9:12pm

Not exactly sure what a "recommit" ceremony entails - does DH re-commit himself to you too? Sweet words from your SS!

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Submitted by c-mom on Fri, 09/22/2017 - 3:42pm

Yes, absolutely. It will be just exactly like the formal wedding that everybody else stole from us. We will re-commit our new and very different selves to our marriage with more understanding of what exactly that means in our relationship setting and I will accept my SS as my son. At our elopement I committed to the children to always do my best for them. I know even more what is expected from me in that respect. I also have a much deeper understanding of how to be a wife to a man with children from a previous marriage. So, we have decided to renew our vows and have a real wedding that includes the people that we love being there to celebrate with us.

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Submitted by c-mom on Mon, 10/30/2017 - 3:40pm

Just joking....

As quickly as they become able to see the light in the absence of her dark presence, so do they become blinded when the darkness returns.

It was shared with her that he wanted me to adopt him so, of course, here she comes love bombing out of the wood works promising the hair follicle test and completely derailed him from the course he had gotten his life following. Now he is going back down the road of anger and lashing out. So, as usual, I stepped back and now it has been 11 days since she has accepted his phone calls. And... the process starts all over again.

Thank God he is 15 so if history repeats he will already be grown by the time she decides to show up and play heads games again.

Poor kid.