WTF WTF WTF................ BM SISTERS DAUGHTER AND HER BABY STAYING WITH US
I get home today from work and SO tells me his niece (she is HIS ex wifes niece) has court tomorrow in the town we live in and she will be staying the night with us.... are you FUCKING kidding me? Did we not have the worst sunday ever because your ex wife and her CRAZY family.....
I say um isn't this BM's niece? Well yes he says but she's one of the kids we helped take care of for three years... (dont even get me started on the WHY they had to take her from BM's sister) that in itself is an entire other blog.
I am all about helping people. And I am all about being patient with ex family members BUT to not EVEN ASK ME IF THIS GIRL AND HER BABY CAN COME SLEEP OVER FOR A NIGHT???????
BM and her sister are VERY close when they aren't in a full on fight..... right now they aren't getting along so they are being nice to SO. Is he that stupid to think this girl is coming here simply because she needs a place to stay in the town she has court in? HER MOM lives 25 miles away.... lets be real about this.
I am so angry I just can't express it correctly. :jawdrop:
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^^^^^ EXACTLY ^^^^^^^
^^^^^ EXACTLY ^^^^^^^
This is incredibly not cool.
This is incredibly not cool. I check with my DH if my OWN sister wants to come and stay. Totally unacceptable.
That is just gross on his
That is just gross on his part. You need to speak up and say I pay the bills here too and why are you walking all over me this way and inviting a family here you divorced.
He is not obligated.
gee wiz I wonder about some people.
I don't even know her....
I don't even know her.... never have met her. She hasn't talked to my SO in 4 years...... so my confusion is strong. I just confronted him about how I feel. He said that after watching me hug my ex's little brother the other day in the store (I have been in his life as he has been in my kids lives for 24 years) he assumed that I would understand why he wanted to help his niece.....
The difference in this is simple. My ex's little brother was NOT invited to have a sleep over. He also doesn't have a family who is trying to sabatoge my LIFE............. OMG I want to RIP HIS FACE OFF RIGHT NOW.
So I said if you have an issue with me talking to my ex's little brother then you should have said something. This young man is in my kids life daily. YOUR niece or BM's niece hasn't been in your life for 4 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And out of the blue she is coming to stay with us? Seriously. I am so angry I can't control my tears.
BM's sister would bring her
BM's sister would bring her daughter over to see SD for visits to mine and SO's house. Well, she'd drop her off and started this habit of coming in and chit chatting. Asking inappropriate things like how much we paid for something and telling us about her baby daddys. Not getting the hint when I get up and leave the room in mid-sentence she'd still be chatting away and SO just sits there listening. Later he'd pretend to be annoyed and flustered "i don't know what to do". Then one day I'm pulling up and just see her walk into my house when she dropped off her kid.
I yelled at SO. He just couldn't bring himself to make her feel unwelcome, so I did. I guess because he feels like she didn't really do anything he and BM were together for so long it was kinda like family for him. I laid it out that its BMs family not his and if he can't do it I will. So I did. She doesn't even drop her daughter off anymore. After I made it clear that she wasn't allowed in the house anymore, BM yelled at SO because we "embarrassed her sister". Lucky for SO he stuck up for me and said well its helena's house too and your sister is inappropriate. Stupid BM you think I want your family at my house? Dumb whore.
Anyway, my point is that your DH may not have the balls to say no. This means you get to. If it were me, I would go home and let her know to make other arrangements. She isn't staying at your house.
go stay at a hotel for the
go stay at a hotel for the night
I spoke my peace to SO. She
I spoke my peace to SO. She did not stay. Although he and I exchanged words that just infuriated me. Because no matter how BLACK AND WHITE I put it he didn't get it. He made me feel like I didn't want to help others. And that he likes helping people. Needless to say he went to bed at 8pm and I went to bed at 11pm.
Please read up on verbal
Please read up on verbal abuse. That is what he is doing to you with these word games. Instead of a straightforward discussion about the issue, he twists everything to be about your character instead.
Hon, not sure why you are with this guy. What is he offering you?
I absolutely HATE it when DW
I absolutely HATE it when DW agrees to let one of the SKIDS come and spend the weekend with us and doesn't consult me. That mess drives me up a while. All of my SKIDS have kids of their own, so that means they bring their kid with them. Last weekend on MY BIRTHDAY she let one of the SD's spend the weekend with us. So it was not only her, but she brought her 2 month old son, and her 4 yr old daughter without so much as asking how I felt about it. Yeah, happy birthday to ME! LOL.
Last week I overheard one of my SD's telling another SD that "This is mom's house and I should be able to do anything that mom's okay with". I quickly corrected her ass and told her this is OUR HOUSE and we both are going to agree with what goes on in OUR HOUSE. Of coruse she didn't like it, but I'm sick and tired of my SD's always hiding behind my DW's skirt.
You have every right to be upset at him.