Social issues
hello my stepson to be has a lot of social issues and dad’s head is in the sand. My daughter however is very smart, independent and very sociable. My stepson is the complete opposite. I noticed how bad things were about the fall of last year. I had a long talk with grandad which brought up the conversation. He was estranged from the family for many years and doesn’t feel that he can say anything to his son about his grandson. We have been seeing a family therapist for about 2 months and she agrees with me 100%. Right now there battling time sharing in court with no success because mom suffurs from mental issues of her own and is avoiding the courts as much as possible so coming to any solution in time sharing is not going to happen anytime soon. I’m having such a difficult time. It’s like talking to a wall. He’s very quiet, doesn’t talk much he’s even very sweet not rude at all. I’m sure your wondering what I’m complaining about right?? The problem is he’s annoying, I can’t understand a word he says, no matter how much I try to explain something it goes in one ear and out the other. He cannot look you in the eyes or even stay focused on your face when your talking to him, he is in LALA land all the time. It took me 6 months to get him into the habit of washing his hands and keeping food off his face and hands and off the floor. I love his dad so much but his son really annoys me. It was great when we were dating and he didn’t live with me but once we moved in together that’s when I started to notice. Desperate for advice!!!
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What is the therapist plan
What is the therapist plan for diagnosis? I agree that it sounds like something deeper than him just being annoying to you. Also, like tomatoe said- you can't compare apples to oranges. These are 2 different kids, raised differently, and have different personalities. If your SS does have autism or another disorder, he may never be outgoing, or very verbal, or emotionally attached. It sounds like he needs help...
I don't know if you know much
I don't know if you know much of when he was younger... SD9 is PAINFULLY shy. We've made some leaps and bounds. But I think it's because of her starting years... BM didn't take care of her, but was a "sahm" (aka, I don't want to work, but i don't want to take care of the kids either...). So up until preschool she hadn't ever really been allowed to leave the house or socialize with anyone else. DH was in the military and working long hours, he'd find a way to get home in time to feed the girls dinner and get them in bed before he went back to work (she wouldn't even feed them dinner or bathe them... When he deployed he had to move them down to his parents so they'd make sure the girls were as taken care of as possible..). But since she wasn't socialized when she was young, didn't get quality time, etc. She kind of got stunted. She's shy and was PAINFULLY behind in school before DH and I got them full time. She's made improvement since then, but it's been rough!
Your SS may have something else going on, I'm just hesistant to jump to a diagnosis without looking at everything as a whole first. I'd definitley see about therapy and seeing if he can get any help that way
Like everyone else
Like everyone else. This kid needs to see a DR. And get to the bottom of the problem. And a plan to make it better. This is going to hold him back in life