I'm lucky, I mean BM doesn't do a lot of the things that other people on here deal with but I still feel such resentment and hate for this woman. I think I fiqured out some of the reasons though.

1. My DH quit school and worked two jobs so that BM could go to college and get her nursing degree, she didn't work at all just went to school. Hell she didn't even take care of her kid when she got home she had my MIL do it. She kept them together even though my DH was already wanting to seperate till she was done with school by guilting him about SS, then as soon as she was done with school she was fine with seperation.

2. She then moves an hour and a half away so she can live rent and utility free and be able to foist her kid off on her grandma whenever she wanted to. My DH gets his every other weekend but loses his midweek because a three hour drive doesn't make since for a 3hr visit.

3. She proceeds to make 3x's what DH makes and have no bills and get child support still not having to watch her kid.......even when she is home. Her grandmother even would come and make breakfast for SS in the morning because they all live in trailers on her grandmas farm.

4. Fast forward my DH gets little input in his sons everyday because he is just far enough away to make it difficult and SS is starting to have problems. They get him to doctors and he has evaluations, SS has ADD. I just wonder if she had been willing to live up here and had let DH help if it would have got so out of hand. If she had stayed close enough that he could take SS while she was at work when he wasn't working and SS had some order and the doctors recoamendations for ADD would have been followed would SS be easier to handle?

5. She dates all the time, she already works 60+ hrs a week and then does she spend her free time with her kid.......no. My mom was a single mom and she never dated she was with her children all the time, she kept our house clean and cooked all our meals from scratch because she says we were so much more important then any man. No I don't think it should be that extreme but she does have every other weekend free, why doesn't she date when SS isn't there, hell she has all summer free doesn't even call SS she has plenty of time to sow her wild oats and party.

6. She gave up the weekend she would have had this summer because she said she had to work the whole month every weekend......Got on her facebook......she had every weekend in June off work and spent every single one with her boyfriend.

7. She quizzes SS about my daughter even though according to DH our daughter is months ahead developmently then SS at her age trying to find some way in which she is better then me.

8. Her home is a pig pen, she never cleans and lets her little dog poop and pee everywhere because she doesn't take care of it properly.

9. She feeds SS only fast food and never cooks even though ADD doctors say that kids with ADD need regular good meals and no pop, so what does he get grease and soda.

Bottom line I resent her I resent that she makes tons of money because she has a high paying job that my DH gave up his education to get her and she gets child support while I stretch DH's much lower paying job to pay our bills. I resent that she doesn't take responsibility for her kids ADD care and follow doctor recomandations but lets him watch tv and play video games all day because thats easier for her even though every thing written on ADD says no more then an hour of tv or video games a day. I resent that she tricked DH when they were 19 and said she was on birth control when she wasn't and got pregnant to trap him and now I am stuck dealing with her and her child who most of the time I can barely stand. I resent that she exists in my world even though I would never put myself near someone so low class and crass by my own choice. I resent that just because she is an RN she thinks she is better then everyone even though she has no other things to distinguish herself, she is unattractive, under educated in every other area, and dresses skimpy when she is short and overwait. I was raised educated and went to good schools, my family made me take deportment lessons, I was taught to dress correctly and handle myself with dignity. I was accepted to ivy league based on my test scores but I didn't go because my family needed me, I went to a local culinary school and worked more then full time and supported my sister and her kids at the same time. I have always done what is right and it just bothers me that this woman is even in my world.

Sorry this is long but I just needed to get this all out so that I could fully see it myself, I am trying to move on from my resentment of her and I hoped putting it all down in print would help. DH and I's counciler said that we had to work on ourselfs first before working on the marriage and that we should write things down and let it out so here is my first list.

I think we all need a little therepy........What do you hate about your skids BM?