I found this site and am turning to other fellow step parents for advice. I don't know what to do with my MIL situation. I am to the point that I no longer want to take my daughter, who is 8, up to my In Laws for visits. My husband has two boys from a previous marriage (5 and 11), and I have a daughter from a previous marriage (8). My husband is very good at treating my daughter like she is his, and I do my best to also treat his boys like they are my own, when they are in our company. I have been complimented several times in the past by FIL on how I treat his grandsons, by including them in everything and just being nice to them, and making sure they are taken care of. I noticed all along, from day one, slight favoritism on MIL's part towards both SS, and I was really okay with it. FIL and MIL would buy my daughter equal presents to what they got the boys, and they attended her birthday parties and things like that. I understood that she was not their grandchild, and they don't care for her in the same way they care for their grandsons. I first started noticing blatant disrespect towards my daughter one Christmas when FIL was taking pictures of the three grandkids, and MIL whispered something in his ear. A few weeks later we were at their home, and the picture that had been taken of the three kids by the tree was on display in their living room, with my daughter cut out of it. My daughter noticed this and said something to me and got her feelings hurt. I brought this to my husband's attention, and he mentioned it to them, that it was really screwed up that they (she) went so far as to cut my daughter out of a picture. They then went out of their way a while later to ask us for a larger picture of my daughter's school portraits so that they could put her on display with the boys. I thought MIL got the hint, maybe even felt bad for hurting my daughter's feelings, and was going to change things. Things have only progressively gotten worse in the last couple years, MIL treats my daughter like an unwanted, unwelcomed piece of dirt when we are at their home. Things are better when they come to our home because MIL mostly ignores my daughter, except for a few snide comments. Everytime my daughter cries, or is upset about something, she is an actress putting on a show for attention. Forget it if there is a fight between her and one or both of the two boys, you can guess who gets the blame in her eyes and who is the trouble maker. Let me just tell you what happened this past weekend (Father's Day). We spent Saturday night and Father's Day at my In Laws home. Sunday morning my DH's two boys and his parent's were the first ones up and were downstairs. My daughter woke up upset because she had a bad dream. She tried to come in the room my husband and I were in, and the door was locked because we were getting dressed. She didn't knock or say anything, she just went downstairs, thinking for some reason maybe we were already up and down there. She sat down on a chair and was crying, and SS11 asked her if she was okay and what was wrong. MIL says," Don't speak to her, don't look at her, just ignore her." Then she came upstairs and I was in the bathroom, and she came in crying and told me what happened. Then later that day, MIL was going to take DH and I to some local outlet stores to shop for a few hours. FIL was willing to watch the kids while we shopped, but he felt he could only handle two of them, not all three. I suggested he keep the two older ones, my daughter-8, and my SS-11, because they get along the best and we would take the little one (SS-5) with us. MIL chimed in that my daughter was coming with us and the boys were staying with FIL because FIL can't deal with a whiny brat who will cry for Mommy the whole time we're gone. She said all this in front of my daughter. My daughter also does not cry for me when either of her Step siblings are around, only if she were to be left alone with one of them. Most likely because she's not stupid and knows they don't like her. So... by now my daughter is in tears because she does not want to go shopping with us, she wants to stay and play with SS11. The little one (ss5) is just sitting and watching all this, and he would have been fine going with us, had the b!tch just listened to me and left things the way they were. So then FIL chimes in and says fine she can stay, and MIL gets p!ssed off and says to my daughter, "Fine both the boys are coming with us then, and you can stay here by yourself." Now my daughter is sobbing, both SS's are now running around getting their shoes on, all excited that they are going. To make an already long story short, I ended up getting pissed off, carrying my daughter out to the car, and leaving the boys with FIL. My daughter cried her eyes out the whole way to the store. Then MIL made a comment about her wailing, and I said, "Well this is what YOU wanted, what YOU pushed for, deal with it." This is only the final straw, I cannot take anymore. I do not want my daughter even seeing her. She makes her feel like crap. My daughter has occassional night terrors, and one time a couple months ago, MIL and FIL were down for a weekend visit at our place, and my daughter says to MIL, "I got to sleep with Mommy last night because I had a bad dream." My daughter was telling her this because she was excited she got to sleep with me because it doesn't happen often, I don't allow it unless she is sick or something. So MIL says, "Oh, and where did Daddy (DH) sleep?" My husband slept in SS's bed so that she could lay down with me because of her night terror. Then MIL starts ridiculing my daughter that she is too old to sleep with Mommy and doesn't she think it's time to grow up. And saying SS-5 is only 5 and sleeps in his own bed. SS-5 still shits in a diaper because his mother won't potty train him, still uses a pacifier and still walks around with a blanky. The SAME day, as MIL and FIL were leaving, MIL says to SS5," Do you want to some visit us sometime and sleep over? You can sleep in the bed with Grandpop." So she rips my kid a new one for sleeping with me, and then blatantly says SS can sleep with Grandpop, ON THE SAME DAY. I hate her.