SD is leveling out......BS is getting stupid.
For many years now it's been SD 15 that was the backtalker, the no helper, the mouth of the south, etc.
Years I tell ya.
My BS knows when to shut his trap, he knows when he's pushed me to the point of no return. SD has never known any boundaries............
Until latley.
SD has turned into a polite, respectful, kind, helpful, mature young lady. Really, I can't remember the last time she called at 2 am (she takes after her mom! LOL) crying about this or that. When I tell her to do something and am getting to the end of my patience she sees it and acts right.
All of a sudden they did a flip on me. Now my son is the one that is mouthing off all the time. I mean all the time. No matter what I say to him it's a fight. Last night he was running around in his underwear. Ok, to me that's just nasty. When he grows up and buys his own house and pays for his own furniture he can let the shit flop all over the furniture for all I care. But when he runs around in his underwear you can see the "thing" hanging there. And me as mom, I want to puke. I certainly don't want that on my furniture, I don't care if underwear are blocking it or not. Well I tell him to go put shorts on and you would think I just asked him to shoot hisself in the foot. WTF?
He washed his hands after using the bathroom last night (amazing in its self) but he left the water running in the sink. I went by the bathroom and heard it and went in and shut it off........he was in his room-which is right across the hall-looking at me. Ummmm......did you actually forget to turn the sink off? Yeah mom, I forgot, sorry. No, not sorry, you are 14 years old. WTF?
Stuff like that happens 20+ times a day latley with him.
I am at my ropes end with his ass.
Maybe I gotta get back to the younger years where soap in the mouth came to pass with backtalking! I can see his face..............LOL
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Jen I think when kids learn
Jen I think when kids learn how much trouble it is to have to go back and fix or put things up after the fact, they will see how much easier it is to just do it right then. For example, instead of turning the water off for him, I would have made him get up from whatever he was doing to go turn it off himself. Then maybe next time he will be more cautious so that he won't have to stop what he's doing later.
Think of it like this, it's sooo wonderful your SD is becoming more respectful and tolerable....atleast now that it's BS causing the trouble, you have more authority over his behavior and can correct it in the best way you see fit!
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MM, usually with the water
MM, usually with the water that's exactaly what I would have done. I was just kindave shocked to hear and see it running that I didn't really understand what was going on. I had entered the twilight zone. Surely my 14 year old didn't "forget" to turn off the water? LOL
But your right. Atleast it is BS acting stupid, him I can beat.
LMAO - see, we always have
LMAO - see, we always have to look at the bright side of things, it helps when proceeding to deal with things! ((hugs))
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omg that's
omg that's hysterical...sorry honey...it's just too funny for me to give any advice! euuuwww...little boy junk all over furniture *giggling* what a lil shit!
Well i'm happy to hear sd is flying straight for once and you can always knock the taste out of Bs's mouth when he's acting a fool. }:)
~“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone"~ Audrey Hepburn
I'm with you! My BS14 is
I'm with you! My BS14 is the worst of the whole group! Constant backtalking, passive-aggressive disrespect - he's a complete snot!!! What is it with some boys and nudity?? My son will run all over the house in just his underwear. SS13 will not even take his shirt off in front of anyone. He shares a bedroom with BS14 and goes into the bathroom to get dressed. It's very weird. There's my boy running around the house free as a little naked mole rat, and the other one actually gets angry if he sees any nudity whatsoever. I walked out of my bedroom to get a shirt from my daughter's bedroom. I was wearing jeans and my bra. You see more if I'm in a bathing suit. Well, SS13 had to have a private talk with DH because he didn't like that I was walking around in just my bra. DH told him to get over it. LOL! So, I guess I know where my son gets it.
Our trouble is that if The Wookie finds out that we are less than fully clothed, she would make a huge scene about it, so we've had to tell the kids that they have to wear sleep pants and sleep shirts at all times or pants and shirts if it's during the day. No running around half-dressed.
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Its probably a teen thing.
Its probably a teen thing. He's just having his brooding moment and "hates the world",lol. I'm sure it'll pass.
And I'm glad that SD is getting on track with things. It seems like some of your goodness rubbed off on her
awww....thanks Giana. One
awww....thanks Giana.
One happy girl........that is just to funny. I run around in a tshirt, usually with sweats when my son is up.....but the other day I woke up late and ran in there to wake him up and when I turned around to walk away he said........MOM, put some cloths on! I had a tshirt and underroos. I don't see the big deal! LOL! Maybe if I had rubbed my azz on his pillow he'll catch the idea. Actually, I may just do that if the nakedness continues! LOL
That is hilarious!! I may
That is hilarious!! I may try that too.
I agree that it is a teen
I agree that it is a teen thing. My BS is almost 13 and tries that mess. DH tells him that he can't sit on furniture etc without a shirt on. BS doesn't get the fact that he sweats now and that we don't want armpit smell on the furniture. If BS wants to run around with no shirt on then he needs to stay in his room. BS gets mad, but oh well. My house, my rules. BS is also mouthy and disrespectful. Working on that, but only reason is he wants a new phone for Christmas. Been without his for 9 weeks now being one of his grades dropped below an 85. BS thought he would smooth it on out and get the phone back early. NOPE! Momma is sticking to her guns on this one. BS is all and all a good kid, so I am blessed, but I think he is trying to throw some of his testosterone build up around..... LOL! Puberty is sooooo much fun isn't it!
Jen you can always do what I
Jen you can always do what I did and relocate his face for him... KIDDING... I do not recommend that, but I will say it had an amazing result!
Girl I can't tell you how
Girl I can't tell you how many backhands my child has gotten!
He used to know the limit. He used to know right where he could push me to..........but latley he's getting a hair beyond that line. And it's really surprising me. It's just not like him to be this "out there".
I'm gonna have to sit him down and have a come to Jesus talk tonight, with a mommy loves you hug on the way out the door!
The one perfectson got was a
The one perfectson got was a step above a backhand I'm embarassed to say.... I mean he almost got whiplash from this one. Here he was a big old 16 year old and he bawled like a baby afterward.
I know yours is a couple years younger than perfectson.... are things ok at school? Girl stuff that you know of??? Any reason at all you can come up with to cause him to go stupid now? I feel for ya!!!!!
He's having all kinds of
He's having all kinds of issues. School, his loser Bio father never sees him, girls in and out of his life, etc. If you didn't know better, and if you met him on the street, you'd seriously think my boy is a kid that has had no parental guidance in his life.
Even the teachers look down on DH and I. Regardless of how many times I've sat in front of all of them begging them for any help, advice, etc I know they still think the ball is in my court. DH and I will get on my son in a skinny minute, he's a sweet kid, he's just a child that HATES school. If he does make it to graduation it'll be a miracle. Honestly.
No matter how hard I push he pushes right back.
And for those who think I haven't been hard enough.....because I know you are out there.......we've went as far as to let BS spend a entire day in DH's jail. He had to get patted down, booked in, jail jumper, jail food, etc. I even went in with a "letter from the judge" that stated how he was expected to act, etc from now on or he would go to juvy. He signed, begged me to take him home, cried the whole way there.
Within two days he was back in the principals office.
He's just one of those kids.........even my mom says she has no clue what else to try. We've tried it all with him.
Oh Jen... I sooooo feel for
Oh Jen... I sooooo feel for you! Your son sounds so much like my brother when he was that age. You're right... some kids are just 'those kids' that all you can really do is love them and hope for the best! Hang in there, you're such a great mom!!!!!
Since the girls have gotten
Since the girls have gotten older SD17 and BD12 they know to have pajama pants or shorts on when they are running around the house. Its not appropriate to be showing your ass around your stepdad and BS6. Nowthen BS6 thinks its perfectly acceptable to be in his undies all day. I ask him to get dressed but he argues. Since he is a little guy, not a big deal right now but later on I don't want to be looking at his stuff!