Confused
Hello everyone!
So today the girls came back from their moms, both 15yrs old girls. They came to our bedroom and greeted us then passed me and went straight to their father. It's fine I don't have a problem with that. I excused myself then when I came back to the bedroom they were not there. Then hubby says to me " please be nice to the girls! I was not expecting that from him, I asked him be nice how? Ask them to hug me? Then he said he can see that I'm not happy to see them, I really don't know what my hubby was expecting from me honestly. I greeted with a smile, he says when they left here things were not okay and I'm still not okay, the funny part is that he spoke to them last week and made peace alone, I was not part of those phone calls and now he wants me to jump for them? NO I won't do that I told him. So tomorrow there's a meeting .... I'm tired and emotional
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Do you know what the
Do you know what the "meeting" is about?
If not, I'd be concerned. I would think that a family meeting is discussed prior to said meeting by both adults - i.e. agreed on.
I would not participate unless I knew what it was about and agreed on approach.
Be polite, be nice, say thank you and please.
But don't over-extend yourself or do extras unless you WANT to.
Is his definition of "being nice" = cook, clean, be 'mom' to them? Not acceptable.
I personally don't do extras if the recipients are ungrateful. If they can't say thank you or please or be nice and polite to you, why do it?
They greeted the two of you,
They greeted the two of you, you greeted them with a smile. What more does he want? For you to fawn all over them?
How happy does he think you should be to see these girls, who are not yours? Are they happy to see you? He is their parent, not you. Respect and courtesy is all that is required, both ways, and he needs to accept that. He's making it harder than it is and it will just cause resentment on both sides.
Can't wait to hear the minutes of the meeting. Please keep us updated.
"Please be nice to the girls"
"Please be nice to the girls" = bow down and kiss their asses no matter what they do. Grovel and plead with them to give you a crumb - but do not ever resent it when they treat you like s***.
Yikes. I would not like two
Yikes. I would not like two teenaged SD's tromping through my bedroom. That's all I can really say here. I just wouldn't like it.
Can't they say "hey what's up?" from the doorway like regular teens lol