I have one SD(7), I also have two sons from a previous relationship and we have a 5 month old baby together. We have been together almost 3 years and it seems bio mom is getting crazier the longer we are together. The shit really hit the fan when SD told her I was pregnant. We don't have the normal custody arrangement here. We all live in the same town, my ex thankfully lives two hours away. With his schedule he only takes the boys once a month. As far as exes go, he is pretty decent, same rules as I have for the boys, treats them well, feeds them properly. We can talk on the phone and parent together and have never said a bad thing about each other to the boys. With DH's ex, it's a bit different. We have SD from Sunday at 12pm till Thursday after school every week. Bio mom still tries us to get to take SD on the weekend so she can go out and do who knows what. One time when DH asked, she just said I have adult stuff to do! Last weekend I finally put my foot down. I told him that I would not accept any days that weren't ours. I was done with doing all the work and discipline while he is at work, he works every Saturday and while she is recovering from a hang over, she's been to rehab twice now. I felt like a bitch saying this but I need time away from SD, she is a whiny little brat that doesn't appreciate a single thing I do for her. The attitude on this kid is appalling! She is totally her mother's daughter.

So when bio mom found out I was pregnant, she actually called me at work to tell me that she just got done fucking my DH and hung up on me. Totally pathetic! Of course I didn't believe it, he wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole. She is psycho, she has driven drunk with SD in the car, she stabbed DH with a wineglass while they were together, he called the cops on her twice, she cheated on him and left and moved in with some other guy and 2 years later finally started to take SD overnight again. She won't speak with me but bitches and yells to DH about my parenting. I try to treat SD like mine but when her mom is constantly yelling about the way I do things and SD doesn't appreciate it, it makes me not want to. I'm sorry but I don't put up with whining, crying and rudeness in my house. If my boys don't get away with it, neither will some bratty kid that isn't even mine. She is totally spoiled rotten, she broke a nintendo ds and grandma just handed her another one! She is not responsible for her things, is constantly losing things, breaking things and making messes. She is extremely rude to my kids so I'm constantly discipling her. DH sees these things but for so long he just tuned her out, he doesn't see a lot of what she does because she is so annoying, he ignores her. His words not mine!

I am at the end of my rope. This bitch tells SD that I am fat, ugly and that she was going to kill me! She is nuts and I can't handle it anymore. SD is starting to follow suit, she is rude to me, snotty and downright annoying. I can't stand looking at her most of the time and just want her to go away. For half of the week, my life is amazing, my kids are great, not perfect but they are turning into wonderful young men and my baby girl is beautiful and such a joy. DH is the perfect dad to my kids and not present with his. He's great with supporting my discipline and standing up for me with my kids but when it comes to SD, he makes me handle everything. I am done being the bad guy. I've just started to point out when she's doing something and make him handle it because when she goes to her mom, she complains about what I do then bio mom calls DH yelling that I shouldn't have anything to do with SD and that I have my own kids to worry about. Well, then step up and be a mother, bitch then I won't have to try to reverse your crappy parenting! She feeds her nothing but junk, puts her in front of a tv and drinks. SD likes it there because she can do and eat whatever she wants and there is no discipline. I have never yelled at this girl but when I ask her why she's in trouble or if she's in a time out, I always ask why she was put there and it's always I don't know, as she's mumbling and whining. I just want to smack her face. I dread Sundays when she has to come back here and I can't stand the sound of her whiny voice anymore. For some reason SD still wants to hug me goodbye and touch me and I hate it when she touches me. I understand she is just a child and is caught in the middle of all of this but so are my kids. I'm angry because I have to deal with this bitch and I can't tell her what I think of her because DH doesn't think that'll help anything and it takes everything in me to not scream at SD that her mother is a useless piece of shit every time she talks about that bitch. DH has let bio mom vent, scream and call me names without saying anything to defend me. I told him how much this hurts me but he will do anything to not rock the boat so bio mom won't take anything out on SD. I told him I wouldn't deal with it anymore, it all came out this last Friday. I was ready to be done, I told him if he didn't grow a pair and stand up for me that I was taking my kids and I was out. I told him that he never considers me and the other kids and that he would rather have me mad at him then her and that I wasn't putting up with it anymore. He suggested counselling so we'll see what happens there but honestly as long as bio mom is in my life, I will not be happy.