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Submitted by Bex_S on Tue, 01/18/2022 - 4:02am

Well, the family split has finally happened. After 6 years of misery and stress caused by toxic SD, she is out of my life and my children's lives. She, for the 4th time has made false accusations of abuse and neglect, supposedly perpetrated by myself and DH. Despite the extensive history of lying about pretty much anything from this, right down to little white lies (and being caught out every time), BM still believes the lies. SD has even now begun to accuse us of abusing our own children, so DH and I have put our foot down to protect the family unit.

Stupid Skid

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sun, 09/13/2020 - 7:50am

I'm wondering, at what point did you realise that your skid isn't just being a kid, they're, let's say....not endowed in the intelligence department. My SD shows me nearly every time I see her just how monumentally stupid she is. It makes me worry for her ability to function in the world as she grows older.

Being made to feel guilty for my feelings....sigh

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sun, 04/26/2020 - 6:37am

So my DH, understandably is missing his daughter during quarantine, as BM and partner are both still working so SD is staying with them. That wasn't our choice. DH suggested the day of lockdown and before BM and partner returned to work that SD would be safter with us. SD had severe whooping cough as an infant and has scarred/weakened lungs so is potentially high risk if she gets infected. BM wouldn't have it; she cares more about having her kid with her so she doesn't miss her, than try to keep her safe.

Feel bad for DH

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Submitted by Bex_S on Fri, 03/13/2020 - 5:29am

I'm starting to feel bad for my DH. He and SD used to be close (in a healthy way, not mini-wife way). Then when I came into the picture she started with the mini-wife crap, which to my husband's credit, he put a stop to. I was always nice to her and didn't try to force a relationship, but I didn't push her away either. I didn't dish out discipline, just stayed open to her so a relationship could develop if that's what she wanted. SD and I eventually got to a place where we got on quite well, but her behaviour and attitude towards me drastically changed shortly after she turned 5.

BM moving SD AGAIN

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sun, 01/26/2020 - 7:22am

Now, anyone who's read my previous posts will know I'm not a fan of my SD, by any stretch of the imagination. But today I feel for her, tbh. Since BM and DH split 6-7 years ago, BM has moved SD no less than 6 times...soon to be 7. She and her current partner (place your bets on how long that will last...) are about to move all the kids for the second time within 2 years. And these poor kids all live on top of eachother; including BM and partner, it is an 8 person household, complete with 2 dogs and 2 cats that piss and shed everywhere.

Stopping skid coming over

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sun, 01/12/2020 - 6:43am

I was wondering...does anyone have any tried and tested methods to make skids not want to come over anymore? I hate having that brat in my home and I just want to scream. She comes over less than she used to, but I wish she wouldn't come here at all, especially overnight. I wish DH would just take her out for the day or something...why should I be subjected to her?!

BM taking the piss financially again

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sat, 01/11/2020 - 7:04am

So yet again, BM has said DH has to buy skid new school shoes (this is the third time in a row now). She came up with some lame excuse to shunt her responsibilities again, like she also does with pick up and drop offs, etc. WTF do you think the £400 a month child support is for?!! That's more than enough to look after a kid. If you're squandering the money you're being given to pay for YOUR CHILD, to the point you can't even buy shoes for her, then you're doing something wrong. We're not paying for your lifestyle, we're paying for the upkeep of skid! 

End of my tether

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Submitted by Bex_S on Fri, 12/27/2019 - 6:26am

I'm so angry right now I can barely type. If my parents weren't here I would have walked out. So it turns out, brat skid is staying for an extra 2 days...you know how I found out? I wasn't told or even consulted. I only found out because I made a point of asking DH this morning how long she was staying. I'm sick and tired of being disregarded in my own fucking home. I'm sick of being treated like I'm just along for the ride. My parents are upset too; they came to see me and their grandson and spend some time as a family.

Christmas rant

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Submitted by Bex_S on Thu, 12/26/2019 - 2:16pm

So we had Christmas with DH's family today, after Christmas day with my parents. Yesterday was lovely, as no skid, and it was just DH and I, my parents, DH's father *shock, horror*, and our son. Today was awful...even DH admitted it. Skid made it all about her, as usual and acted like an obnoxious brat. Yet all day, DH's family was fawning all over her, while they all ignored our son, other than a couple of sarcastic comments about him being moody (he cried for a little bit because he's cutting molars, and he was trapped in a strange room full of people who were strangers to him).

Great. Birthday with the skid

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Submitted by Bex_S on Sat, 12/21/2019 - 4:19am

Just needed a vent. So today is my birthday....the one day of the year I thought I'd have a say with whether the brat comes over. Apparently not. DH knows I don't like her or her company, yet he's brought the little shit over anyway. I was looking forward to a nice day with my husband and my son, but I'm going to have my second birthday in a row ruined by the skid.

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