I've been watching (painfully, usually) the dynamics of H's relationship with his daughters, and how SD17 always receives preferential treatment-over anyone-myself and SD13 included.

So, I ask myself why, how. Here's the scenerio. When we first married in the spring, SD17 wasn't coming around. Altho we furnished her with a car, and paid the gas for her to drive over (30 minute drive) she was rarely here. H & I would go there, and take the girls out.

Then, mid-summer, she started showing up all the time. She was over here (in the town I live in) all the time. On the days H was here, she'd stop in briefly (acting as tho, oh, she missed him so very much, Love, hug, kiss kiss, came all this way to see you, gotta go-just as soon as you give me gas money). Now, this girl didn't even bother to come over for Fathers Day. Hmmm. I knew something was up. Turns out she had broken up w/her boyfriend at home, and found a new one over here. So she was in this town, nearly every day (her father being here only on weekends). And she'd grace him with 30 minutes of her presence when he was here, and get her gas money & go. H was so flattered. He couldn't even see (and I can't point that out to him-I don't want to hurt him like that) that the change was due to the new boyfriend being here. They broke up after about two weeks, and her trips over here came to a screeching halt.

Now she's doing it again. Oh, Daddy. My wonderful, wise, loving Daddy whom I love above and beyond all. :sick:. Gotta spend Halloween with my Daddy. C'mon, shes 17, whats up with that? It's really clear now. Seems SD17 spent the two days she had with her dad crying to him how she hates living with BM. Oh, it's so terrible. She just can't bear it any longer. Yeah, right. She graduates in May, but will be attending Jr. College in the same small town she currently lives in with her BM. Plan was for her to continue living with BM while she attends college, as we are not wealthy and neither is BM. Well, SD17 wants to rent a house with a friend after she graduates (therefore, time to kiss up to Daddy, cry that BM is a horrible woman whom she cannot exist with). And here is where kissy kissy daddy wonderful daddy comes in-who do you suppose she is working on to get to pay her rent?

I've always been pretty straight forward-what you see is what you get. But, as the woman (or supposedly the woman) in H's life, I do have available certain wiles that she does not. Gee, wonder if I can learn to be kissy kissy at this age?