So I haven't posted in a while since SS15 moved back with his BM 2 states away. Well since he moved ILs have not talked to me. They all blamed me for SS15 moving back and I think DH let them believe that because he didn't want to take the fall (which is a whole different issue). But the decision was up to DH I said I would support him on what he decided, I hold DH it was his son his decision and if he decided to have SS live with us we needed to sit down and make a plan (like finances, rooms situations, school, etc.) So anyway DH sent him back to live with BM and ILs went crazy. They hate me. I even got a few crazy messages on FB from a family member it was horrible. Anyway I just talked to them last weekend for the first time in 5 months and explained my side of the story. I told them the decision was up to DH.

They blamed me for a lot of things and I sat there trying to defend myself, when I feel that really this is none of their business. This was a decision DH and BM made and it was the best for his son at the time. It is clear SS15 is their favorite and SS knows it and plays them and manipulates them so well. DH tells me he got that from BM because she would do the same thing with people. For example SS15 is playing the victim (in order to get whatever he wants because ILs buy SS whatever he wants to make him happy) making up stuff to ILs to make me sound like the bad guy. Telling them I would swear and yell at him and I was so mean, when in reality I never ever raised my voice at SS EVER and certainly never swore at him. I have been nothing but nice to him. Even when I wanted to slap him across the face for his disrespectful behavior I would simply walk away and let DH deal with it.

I mean it is understandable SS15 was the ILs first grandchild and they were sad when BM moved him 2 states away 10 years ago, way before I was ever in the picture, but that is not my fault. I can't change that. They will do anything in their power to "get him back." But it is not like they never see him. He comes up here every summer and on breaks like Thanksgiving, Christmas, winter and/or spring break etc. And in the summer he is here for months and they see him almost every day. Here is the thing that gets me...ILs daughter and her husband also live 2 states away with their 2 children, and I never hear ILs complain about never seeing those grandchildren. They only see them maybe twice a year. So I don't understand why they are so obsessed with getting SS to live here.

Anyway, so we talked it out with ILs last weekend, I think we are on speaking terms again (not positive though, haven't heard from them since), but they are trying to get us to get SS15 to move back here with us in the summer and have him live here for a year (his junior year of high school) and then move back with his mom for his senior year. Does that make any sense? I don't think it does. Also DH and I are talking about moving out of state with in the year and they were all asking about if we still plan on doing that because SS wants to come live her (basically trying to say we shouldn't move). So I don't know what to do about this whole situation. It is so fustrating. What do I do?