Well everyone, If you read my first blog entry, you will see that I am completely disgusted with my SS. I have spent the last 18 years of my life secretly feeling the way that I feel...I simply can't stand SS. He is disrespectful to me and my kids...who are also DH's kids. My kids take a back seat when SS is around...I have argued with my DH for YEARS over this....well, now my kids 17 and 11 are noticing the same thing....they hate when he comes here. SS now lives out of state--THANK THE LORD....but is coming up for 10 days in March. I have been in high anxiety since I found out...and he's coming up with his new girlfriend. I tried to talk to DH about sleeping arrangements, and he practically bit my head off before I could even get out a complete sentence.

Anyway, I wrote my husband a two page letter about how I feel without coming right out and saying I can't stand your kid...as I know if I had to make him choose, I would lose...and I would never ask him to do that, I would walk away first. More importantly, I told him how his other two kids feel too. I cried about it all day. When DH got home, he read the letter...this way he can look back at it, and what I said can't be misconstrued, as it is in black and white. I told him in the letter that I fear for my kids safety when SS is here, as if he's left alone in a room with them for more than 5 minutes, one of my kids is "accidentally" hurt. Not sure if it will help, but DH did say that SS and new girlfriend were not going to be staying here, DH will put them up in a hotel. We shall see, it's been two days, and he hasn't talked to SS about this visit. SS has plenty of family and friends to stay with so it's not like he has NOWHERE to go...it's just he can't do whatever he wants to when if he stays elsewhere. He comes here and thinks he "rules the roost" and why wouldn't he.....my DH lets him. I applaud you ladies that have your skids full time...I would have been in divorce court years ago if my SS lived with us.