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Ever wonder how many guys are financially supporting kids who aren't theirs biologically?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 8:50pm

Sorry to be a blog hog today- this topic seems to come up somewhat frequently here. I know it is a thought many posters have had regarding their own SKs and DHs. And given that BM cheated on him around the time SD16 was conceived, DH thought SD wasn't his. But they did a DNA test and she is Smile

It makes me wonder, though, just how many men are supporting kids who really aren't related to them at all. Heck, maybe the BMs don't know who the real bio-dads are!

Someone here posted about a man who killed a BM because (in part) "their" child wasn't his at all. He went to death row and was executed. I have no sympathy for him as he chose to kill someone and innocent children were left without a mom. Men shouldn't have to support kids that aren't theirs financially and once DNA has proven the kids aren't theirs, the CS should stop and BMs should be ordered to pay back the CS they got. But those who choose to kill, like this guy did, do not get any sympathy from me.

That said, these situations make me wonder about this topic.

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Submitted by sammmx on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 9:07pm

I hear ya. OH "supports" BMs son that is not biologically his. The kid's bio dad is not in the picture and OH raised him from age 3 to 7 while they were together and he's 10 now and has continued to come on visitation along with SS4 who is biologically his. I use the word 'support' loosely because OH does not pay CS for this child (formally known as SS10), but he does buy him things - ie: school supplies, birthday/Christmas gifts, new shoes/clothes if needed, etc.

I used to wonder about SS4 belonging to OH because they were technically separated when she got pregnant (though still hooking up apparently) and she was also sleeping with another dude. But as he's grown older he has begun to look less like BM and more like OH (THANK GOD!!).

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 09/28/2013 - 8:07am

"I think that if a woman gets pregnant and doesn't want an abortion or adoption, but the man does want one of those options, he should be allowed to sign away parental rights (if they are not married) without any hesitation on the part of the court."

This seems like a good idea. It might spare a lot of people (men, women and kids) a lot of heartache.

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Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 09/28/2013 - 9:27am

Hopefully, it would also stop so many women from trying to trap men or just have kids for the money.

It is such a shame that so many kids come into this world, not because they are wanted, but because of what can be gained because they were born.