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Adjust your role as Stepparent or Bio Parent...but, how?

Anna Blue's picture

Submitted by Anna Blue on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 8:34am

Below is link to a dialogue I picked up from Dr. Phil's website between a father (Ken), his daughter (Emily) and the stepmother (Brenda).

http://drphil.com/articles/article/310/

I find this advice very helpful but, in terms of "adjusting our roles" as father and step-mother...DH and I wish there was a practical list of things we could do.

I was wondering if we could compile a practical list of activities that bio parents and stepparents can do to "adjust our roles." I really would appreciate any ideas you have.

Thank you so much!

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Joy101378's picture

Submitted by Joy101378 on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 10:50am

And obviously has no idea what he's talking about. He has like ten points of advice for dad and daughter, and to SM he says, "adjust your role and ask what you can do to help." LIKE WHAT DOES HE THINK WE ARE ALL HERE TRYING TO DO????? So simplistic I wanted to vomit.

I'm sorry, I have no advice to offer just now. Busy being aggravated...

Gia's picture

Submitted by Gia on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 11:34am

IS HELPFUL...!!!

In a perfect little world...

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

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Submitted by melis070179 on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 11:49am

I think its great advice. And I think the reason he doesn't have a lot of "to do's" for the stepmom is because he agrees that it isn't her fault!

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"

JMC's picture

Submitted by JMC on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 2:31pm

JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'

printed this out and gave a copy to DH when I saw it on his show...DH agreed with it, but of course, like everything else, including our counseling sessions, let it fall by the wayside by the next day.

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Submitted by livinthedream on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 3:48pm

YES JUST IGNORE THEM -IT WORKS FOR ME!!!

Anna Blue's picture

Submitted by Anna Blue on Tue, 06/09/2009 - 2:25pm

Does anyone have suggestions in general about what stepparents and bio parents should do when the children are having a hard time?