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Step etiquette re: family death needed

Aniki-Moderator's picture

BioHo's brother passed away (cancer). DH and I are making a donation to the brother's desired cancer research.

We are also sending sympathy cards. One is being sent to SD25 (who lives with baby daddy and their kids). My question is...

Do we send a single card to "BioHo and family"? Or do we send a card to 'Ho and family and a separate card addressed to SD22, SS19, and PigPen?

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thinkthrice's picture

But someone the terms "to BioHo and family"  and  "card to Ho and Family , separate card to Skids and PigPen" make me chuckle!

ESMOD's picture

I tend to make the breakdown by household.  So if skids and BH are in the same one.. one card is fine.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

My thoughts, too. DH initially wanted to send a card to EACH kid/skid and one to 'Ho. Um, NO. That's FIVE cards!! I told him (because I was fairly certain) that it was one card per household.

I love dogs's picture

I doubt the kids even care about cards. One will be perfectly acceptable and thoughtful.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Well, with the SDs, you never know. It would not surprise me in the least if the SDs are POd because a) DH AND I are donating to the cancer fund and b) DH is signing the card from "DH and Aniki".

I do not know 'Ho's brother, But DH said that we are a couple, so the donation AND condolences are coming from both of us. It doesn't matter that I don't like 'Ho or the SDs. They lost a brother/uncle and I am sad for the loss, He was only 48. Sad

Survivingstephell's picture

I'd avoid the card issue totally and send a plant to the service.  Let them fight over who gets it.  

Aniki-Moderator's picture

The obit explicitly states NO plants or flowers - only donations to a specific cancer organization.

I don't like 'Ho or the SDs, but I'm not heartless. I (we) have sent sympathy cards to my bitchster-in-laws when they lost family members. I don't like those b!tches, either.