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OT - Happy New Year!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

2022 is coming to an end and I will be glad to have it behind me. This past year has been rough in more ways than one. I know I don't share much about my bio family, but wanted to share some good news:

My sister comes home from the hospital today!!! It has been a rocky road the past couple of months and she's not completely out of the woods, but I'm extremely thankful to end 2022 with that positive. 


If, like me, you've been overwhelmed and struggling, climb a hill instead of a mountain...

If the mountain seems too big today then climb a hill instead.

If the morning brings you sadness it’s okay to stay in bed.

If the day ahead weighs heavy and your plans feel like a curse, there’s no shame in rearranging; don’t make yourself feel worse.

If a shower stings like needles and a bath feels like you’ll drown, if you haven’t washed your hair for days don’t throw away your crown.

A day is not a lifetime, a rest is not defeat. Don’t think of it as failure, just a quiet, kind retreat.

It’s okay to take a moment from an anxious, fractured mind. The world will not stop turning while you get realigned.

The mountain will still be there when you want to try again. You can climb it in your own time. Just love yourself till then.

~ Laura Ding-Edwards


I hope that 2023 is good to you wish you all the best. If anyone needs someone to listen, I'll be lurking all weekend. 



Stepdrama2020's picture

What a positive way to close out 2022 with your sister. Blessings

dandelion wishes's picture

Great news about your sister! And thank you for that excerpt from Edwards. I took a screen shot because I am in that place and really scared so those words will be helpful. Thank you for that...your timing is perfect.

Love to you and your sister! Happy new year!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Thanks, dandelion wishes! I've been looking at that excerpt for a couple of weeks now and decided to post for the new year. So glad it speaks to you! XO

Winterglow's picture

I'm so glad that things are going in the right direction for your sister. May her progress be complete soon! 

My roots are in a part of Scotland where today (Hogmanay) is more important than Christmas and the traditions run deep. I find it hard to be so far away from "my people". It's funny how alone you can feel even with friends and family around. Tomorrow I will be back to normal, though, and all this negativity will be over and done with! 2023 can't come fast enough! 

I'm going to try and see in the New Year tonight - I've been going to bed early for the last few years because it was just too painful. 

Drattit, I can't even have a dram yet because I volunteered to taxi in a couple of hours! Aaaarrggh! 

Sorry for being such a misery guts! 

TheAccidentalSM's picture

Hope your sister is going well.

I'm going to ignore NYE but hope everyone who celebrates has a good time.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

She is, TASM. Thanks!

No celebrating for me tonight (DH is working), but I plan to make some Lohikeitto and rieska for New Years Day. 

TheAccidentalSM's picture

Hope you enjoyed the salmon soup and flat bread.  The imaged on google look so yummy!!!!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

We did! I have fond memories of Dad pulling rieska out of the oven and having slightly burned fingers and tongues because we couldn't wait to eat it. *biggrin*

PetSpoiler's picture

I hope your sister continues to improve!

I'll be spending New Years probably on my couch watching tv or playing a game on my Kindle while my husband snores in our bed or the recliner after drinking his Jack Daniels Fire that he promised he'd try to quit because frankly he gets annoying when he drinks and his doctor wants him to get healthier. I've gotten to the point where I tell him basically to shut up and eat something to soak up some of that crap.  He likes his alcohol on the weekends.  Sigh.  

I'll hopefully have the energy to get up and go to church tomorrow then cook a pork roast, black eyed peas, greens and cornbread for lunch or dinner.  If my MIL was in her right mind she'd no doubt call me up and tell me not to do any laundry tomorrow because it will supposedly wash someone out of the family.  I will be doing laundry because I'm not superstitious and I have dirty laundry in the basket.  



Aniki-Moderator's picture

PetSpoiler, I've never heard of that particular superstition. Interesting! If I could was out

Cover1W's picture

Good to hear good news!!!!

My NY today is still having covid (thanks to DH). I definitely was hit harder, he was over it in three days and I'm about a week into it now. And I lost my smell. I'm tired. I don't do anything but read and watch shows. I miss the workouts but there's no way I can do them. I was going to make a chocolate cake for friends, but nope. DH feels bad, but he needs to deal with his decisions. I was going to make a great meal tonight but not anymore.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

So sorry you're sick, Cover. I hope you get well soon and your sense of smell returns quickly! *kiss2*

halo1998's picture

Happy to hear your sister is coming home...that is good start to the new year. 

This year has been by far the most diffucult that I have had with DH.  I won't say my most difficult..those years are from the Village Idiot.  But this year has given those years a run for their money.

DH and I are doing well..I won't say all is forgiven or that everything is as it was before. It will never be the same but we are both working toward our future..together.  To say this has tested me....would be an understatement.  However, it has led me to personal growth and a better understanding of myself. For that I am thankful...

My everyones new year be filled with happiness and joy.  So long 2022...I can't even say its been nice knowing you 2022.

Yosemite's picture

My youngest skid has turned 19, with that we are done with court, CS and all of that. We have a large blended family and the road was rocky for a long time. However I came here today to say that in the end it all worked out. All the kids are grown and have good relationships with us, each other and with BM (even my bio kids!). BM just got married last year and I am very slightly jealous that her new hubby gets to be welcomed right in without the drama we all had to endure but he's super nice. I would be lying if I said there was never any issues but we all seem to have figured out how to work them out so much easier than we used to. I even occasionally have lunch or get my nails done with BM. which I wouldn't have ever thought would happen way back when but it's a good place to be in. It will never be perfect but life is pretty dang good these day. Here's hoping everyone gets a wonderful 2023!!

Edited to add- We also have 6 grandchildren so far and very grateful for them as well!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Yosemite, you are very fortunate to have a good relationship with BM. I honestly cannot think of a single think I'd care to do with BioHo for 3 minutes. Lol

Yosemite's picture

I even had a RO against her at one point. It was the kids who really wore me down on giving BM another chance. She has done some crazy stuff. I don't mean to imply we're besties now but  we are able to get lunch or nails done often with our girls but occasionally without. SD told BM that her kids weren't going to be around BM if she didn't get therapy to figure out how not to go crazy when something hurts her feelings. Then after BM had been in therapy awhile the girls started on me about second chances etc. I wasn't all in immediately but I didn't renew the RO and went to a family event to see how it went. Basically I loved my kids enough to give enough grace to move forward so they could be happy and eventually it all worked out. I am grateful that it did. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Again, you're very fortunate! BioHo is 20 pounds of crazy is a 5 pound bag and only gets worse. She is estranged from SS23 and SD29. Her relationship with SS20 steadily worsens. SS26 is the only one who has a good relationship with 'Ho. That will last as long as SD26 toes the 'Ho line. 

In the beginning, there were problems (which is how I found STalk) and 'Ho successfully step-PAS'd the SDs against me for a time with her lies. The SSs were with us EOWe, so they never bought into her caca. I never spoke a word against 'Ho to the skids, nor try to 'defend myself' against her lies. I just continued to be me and 'Ho's lies proved false.