Hi. I have just found this site, and I'm afraid maybe even a little TOO LATE. My 16 year old son and I moved in with my fiance and his 17 and 16 year old daughters. I am widowed, my son is very solemn and usually respectful. He stays to himself for the most part. My SD's are.... NOT. They are very angry, and God knows what else, at their Mother who left their father after a long affair with Daddy's best friend. THe girls don't see much of their Mom, the older girl refuses to have anything to do with her. So, before I start ranting, let me say that I feel for these girls.....I hate their life situation. I love them, because I love my fiance.

I have, since we moved in together, stood back and let the girls come to me if they need something or wanted something. I didn't want to be their mother....not at all. They lean on me for stuff they need now.....they also talk about me to people all over our small maine town. Not only talk, but lies....no wait the lies were told to BOTH of my sons, about a huge personal and delicate issues. Things that may have had catastrophic outcome. They are pigs, don't pick up a thing after they've used it. Peel oranges on the couch w/ no bowl, paper towel....anything for the peels. Hanging their hair towel over the back of a dining room chair.....time and again. We bought a brand new ashley living room set when we moved 6 months ago, it is stained and some of the boards within the couch are broken for SD16 literally POUNCING on to the couch from feet away. SD17 has a past due phone bill, the other day all 6 of our phones were shut of because she wont pay the bill. I asked her for the money WHILE THE PHONES WERE OFF and asked her for her money.....no she didnt give it. She bought this GREAT jacket at the mall the dal before.....she says "no i put it all in savings." What the hell???? All these years I was PAYING MY BILLS ......no wonder I dont have much savings!!!!!!!!! OMG!!! As she zips off in her little black convertible.....I have a few 'Wicked Step-Mother" fantasies.

These are only the tangible thing that they are doing. They have always had every thing they wanted, never had to work for a thing. Daddy has always made a real nice living. Well, in the pursuit of happiness he has changed his occupation and taken a significant cut in pay. Money isn't as 'free' as it used to be for them. This year they are having to buy their own 300$ prom dresses, pay their own gas, and sacrifice those bottles of water for a plain ol' glass of water and their feelings are VERY hurt by it all. They want the best handed to them on that proverbial 'silver platter', but we can't expect them to treat our things....our home with respect.

Yesterday there was the first sign of words between me and either one of them....and I'm not going that way. I am not, WILL NOT....let these KIDS get to me to the point I open my mouth and say something and is better in my thoughts only. I am going to be cordial, respectful....MATURE about this situation. I will not be getting involved with them in any other way, I am not their parent.....nor will I try to be. I love their father. So I'm out of that. I'm not going to let this little teenage twit get my goat. If I start having words, im literally afraid that what I had to say would definitely be a wedge between Fiance and I, and that is something I dont want at all.

When I first registered here I read this blog of someone venting......I agree SCREW THEM!!!! These little teenage girls, with their know it all and im so much better than you attitudes........SCREW EM. One of these days......hahaha and Im really hopin on this one......one of these days they will grow up and THEN and only then will I care to have any type of relationship with them other than I Love thier Daddy. I don't want to braid your hair, i want to pull it out. NO you may not use my car...walk. NO i wont take you to look at prom dresses, i think they are ridiculous and you're a little snot for wanting to buy a fucking 398$ dress!!!!! Yeah I'm gonna keep going through fiance to get them to pick up after themselves, to pay their fucking phone bills, and not stay in the shower for an hour....Make sure he understand and SEES when they are being manipulative and nasty.....I will deal with all through him. I am not the parent, therefore I'M OUT!!!!!!!