SD has been talking about moving out for the last couple of weeks. Last week DH told me that SD had found a house to rent with her friends. Yesterday she informed him they signed a lease and she will be moving in by the end of June.

DH is not thrilled about the idea but he has not tried to stop her. She has no car, no drivers license and a part time job that will be several miles from the house they are renting, when he has questioned her she tells him they have it all worked out. She also told him she plans to take some classes at junior college. Apparently her friends mother has convinced her to at least take some classes. The house is not exactly in a great neighborhood and we are both pretty sure they are forgetting about many of the costs of living alone.

When I asked DH why he isn't trying to stop her he says he can't. She's 18 and can do what she wants. He also has said that he thinks the experience will help her to appreciate what she has and he thinks it is for the best. The way DH sees it is SD has been in our home for nearly a year and hasn't joined the family and makes it clear she doesn't want to. Since BS and BD are both moving back from school over the next few weeks he feels like it is just best she move out.

He's backtracked a little about not helping her at all. IF she is going to school he wants to help her. He's not asking for more than what I do for my kids and assuming she is doing the course work and not goofing off I don't have a problem with it. I feel like this is going to cause major issues. She has already made comments that she thinks we do more for my kids. I've actually helped my kids less than she realizes. Both BS and BD have had significant scholarships and they have money that their father and I put back for them when we were still married. We will never be able to provide for her in the way I have for my kids and her decisions now are even further limiting what we could do.