So a little over a week ago DH woke me in the middle of the night and off we, DD3, DD1 went to the ER. DH ended up having emergency surgery. He was released a few days later, then 24 hours or so after that back to the ER and re admitted. He's still there.

Planned for this just past Saturday was a sort of mini family reunion at SIL's house. It wound being around 35 people, she had 10 staying the night. DH had been planning on going, but of course he got to hang out at the hospital instead.

So his one brother and wife visited Saturday morning and then much later, after imbibing some liquid courage, SD, nephew23 and neice 19 went to go see DH at the hospital. I was not present, but all accounts indicated it was somewhat less than civil and friendly. For all her talk to other family memebers about wanting everyone to just leave the past behind, start fresh, have no drama, she apparently railed at her father for quite a while. Mostly for not being psychic and knowing she was homeless. She also told him she has been given 30 days to be out of her house among various and sundry admonitions that this health problem was easily preventable (it wasn't) and he needs to do x, y, and z (which would have done nothing) because she chose to listen to and believe the most ignorant source she could find.

His mother and aunt visited the following day when I brought the girls to see DH and we went to SIL's house for a short visit with those that had stayed the night. SD had already left to return home.

So then I get some new and interesting information. I also get the impression that most of her cousins and aunts and uncles are pretty disgusted with her behavior from the previous day.

I was told that
SD wound up homeless because she was using drugs like cocaine. She would not admit that this was a valid reason for her to be kicked out of the house.

She said nothing to anyone but DH about Having to move out. The cousins all believe that she is already out of the house and living in an apartment with her boyfriend.

At some point during the party she went on a tirade about DH being a horrible person for leaving her with her mother, claimed her mom beat her badly enough to land her in the hospital, DH knew she was dangerous and did nothing.
Well, DH sure knew BM is capable of physical violence, that's why he divorced her. However, none of the courts he fought custody battles in cared that she beat him. SD never reported any abuse to anyone at school or a medical office that we are aware of. She never said one word of abuse to DH. Every time DH told her she was always welcome to come live with him, she told him to stop bringing it up, she didn't want to live with him, it would never happen. She then filed with aid of GAL to have visitation reduced following our wedding and proceeded to lie to a judge about how horrible DH was and how afraid of him she was.

So, my crappy, rosey, hopeful bubble that SD actually meant it when she started blabbing to the extended family about how she just wanted to be part of our family again, see DH and the girls and I, is totally popped. On the upside, I feel really solid in our decision that SD is not in a place where her having a relationship with DD's is the best one for the littles....

DH of course is dealing with the crushing emotional mess of this on top on feeling like total crap so he was a real treat today.