Well today the BM was granted unsupervised visits. She and her two daughters (ages 11 and have been participating in chat house therapy for about 6 months. Previously she has had no contact (not court ordered) for 5 years. The oldest shows a lot of hesitation in wanting to go to her house or be around her but I'm not entirely sure if it's a show for her dad and I. I keep encouraging her that it will be okay and it's only from 9am to 6pm. The youngest loves attention from anyone. However, the youngest had done a lot of questionable things while participating in chat house therapy. She has stolen money from her dads wallet, she has stolen several phones from school and has even gotten into a physical fight. I'm concerned that these occurrences will show up again, though its been at least a month since the last (during which she did not see her mother). My concern is that I'm putting in and have put in a lot of effort to mold these girls into responsible and respectful human beings. Their BM shows lack of responsibility and let's thr girls behave however they'd like. I know this because the couple of times the girls have seen their mom, I stand back and let her mother, and they act like monkeys. I just dont want what I've put in undone. I feel as if I have to now step back and let her resume the role of mother. I'm confused and frankly pretty upset. I want them to explore a relationship but to what extent am I allowed to intervene? Please give any insight. I need help.