Dont blame it on the sunshine , blame it on the step mum!
sd 15 rings tonight and says she will go the councelling session only if hubby 's prepared to have a relationship with her. No one else included. He said i'll be there but i cant promise that i'm a package deal!
then she goes on with all this shit (so much like the bm) i'm too blame for why shes soo messed up i did this the 18 months past , nothing to do with what her mother put through all those 14 years , and that my 4 kids have has him around all the time she never!!!!!!
how dare this selfish young girl ... ahhh i know the way shes talkn was the lady shes living with and her bm. shes not thinkn for herself at all. i'm so angry this what our lifes like , all quite for a while then boom every so often a phone call or such just to keep us on our volocano.
i dont know if i can keep doing this, this sd that i once loved is becoming the bm and i.m not going down this road again!
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My sd wants a relationship
My sd wants a relationship with everyone in the family BUT me. It's hard to accept when I loved her like a daughter. It's hard to keep being shut out, but I am not going to give up what I do have with my dh and other children just because of one CHILD. To her, my dh was the only one there for her which is sooooooo not true. My dh has a relationship with my sd and I probably never will have again. I have learned to accept it. There was never really a package deal issue here. I don't like to force anyone to have a relationship with me if they don't want it. What would be the point? I don't have to talk to her or see her. I only have to hear about her once in awhile. So, I just try to let it roll off of me like water off a duck's back. It isn't easy, but the alternative is leaving my dh and I don't want to do that because I WANT to spend the rest of my life with him.
I agree with Peace 2
My SD is the same...wants a relationship with everyone but me. I will not force it. I have done more for her than both her parents put together. My DH used to try to get her to apologize to me and try with me...I told him to stop. I don't want a forced, fake thing. It's actually NICE that I don't have to deal with her anymore. I don't want a relationship with her either!
No faking necessary
I, too, agree with Peace and StepL. What is with these DHs 'forcing' these relationships with their daughters on us?
I find it incredibly fascinating that in almost every situation I've been reading on these boards, it's the SAME story over and over...
"Once upon a time, Daddy had his Little Princess. Daddy just adored his little princess. Sadly, Daddy gets divorced and remarries. But Daddy wants new wife to adore his Little Princess just as much as he does (or else).
Oh, P.S... Daddy's "Little Princess" is usually a spoiled little brat who is fooling Daddy and is, in reality, a horrible child (young adult) who wants NOTHING TO DO with Daddy's new wife.
In fact, Daddy's Little Princess absolutely hates Daddy's new wife. Daddy's Little Princess blames his new wife for breaking up Daddy and Mommy's marriage (even though they were divorced WAY before she ever came into the picture).
Daddy's Little Princess goes out of her way to sabotage their relationship. She lies. She steals. She does wicked, evil things and Daddy never believes that his darling Little Princess is capable of such things. Not his Little Princess. But Daddy can't undersatnd WHY his new wife doesn't adore his wonderful Little Princess? After all, she is JUST perfect!
Hmmmm....Maybe there's something wrong with Daddy's new wife? UMMMMM....NO.
So is anyone else buying this crap?
I don't fake it. I don't want it. I call a spade a spade. And I don't want toxic people around me. If "Daddy" wants his "Little Princess" in his life, then so be it, but I ain't buying the Bulls@#t.
And it took my DH over 5 years for that fact to finally start sinking in.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis