Ladies, I have a quick questions on summer arrangements. In your situations, what kind of arrangement do you have in the summer. My fiance has joint custody but is not the custodial parent. Please do SHARE.....Thank you
That's what we are trying to do and she said "NO WAY". We really want to do it this way so we know exactly when we have them in the summer and can make plans accordingly. Otherwise we need to give her notice since Jan-Feb when we plan to take our summer vacation because she has to plan "things". It is very frustrating.
But the "usual" in Colorado for the non-custodial parent is every other weekend, one "visitation" during the off weeks and half the summer vacation with it usually being every other week.
He's the dad - she doesn't get to dictate how summer vacation is split.
we are starting that battle..for our BM is only controll issue..she doesn't want to give an inch....it's frustrating, tiring, and makes me want to scream
And the kids are pretty young so there is contact with both parents through out the week. When they get a little older we will switch it to Every other week or something. It is the same year round though.
Daddys Gurl
It's Better To Have Loved And Lost, Than To Have Spent The Rest Of My Life With THAT PSYCHO!!!!
We use to have the same problem... I wish that they would have to see how it is on our side of things. We got christian every other weekend. Things happend and Well now we have him Mon-thur and every other weekend. But in the begining she didnt want Jordan to have him more then 1 day. When we Got Christian we made sure she had him on the friday's that she wouldnt have him on the weekends. I think that even though bad things happend she shouild still have time with him. Audrey
We are primary residential custodial parent, we did give Bm same visitation rights we fought tooth and nail to get, our order says SD comes w/ us from last day of school and stays 2 weeks then goes to BM for 2 weeks, and so on, mostly every two weeks with the ability for us to have SD during two of our three family reunions- I love that our attorney was so detailed it has saved us from alot of struggle w/BM!
and it seems that she doesn't want to negotiate...CONTROL FREAK...
Does it get very ugly in court? I am very sensitive and emotionally drained to deal with this.
Hope for the best, expect the worse. Take your worst case scenario and expect that this might be what you have to live with. Hope and fight for what you want but don't be in shock if you don't get it. But have a little faith - judges don't want to make the decision for the two of them. They aren't very keen to people who won't negotiate. But know that it could get ugly.....or not. Sounds like it all depends on HER.
I know how you feel about being drained from all the drama but just take a deep breath....and make sure you take care of yourself.
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Every other week...
Pickup girls from BM on Friday and she does the same the following Friday. Nice to start the week off with a weekend.:)
That's what we are trying to
That's what we are trying to do and she said "NO WAY". We really want to do it this way so we know exactly when we have them in the summer and can make plans accordingly. Otherwise we need to give her notice since Jan-Feb when we plan to take our summer vacation because she has to plan "things". It is very frustrating.
I'm not sure where you live....
But the "usual" in Colorado for the non-custodial parent is every other weekend, one "visitation" during the off weeks and half the summer vacation with it usually being every other week.
He's the dad - she doesn't get to dictate how summer vacation is split.
We are in VA
and he only gets 2 weeks in the summer...and god forbid a day more.
one week on/one week off
we have 50/50 placement and SD is with us every other week Monday night thru Monday morning. it works great for us we do it all year round.
I envy you...
we are starting that battle..for our BM is only controll issue..she doesn't want to give an inch....it's frustrating, tiring, and makes me want to scream
Go ahead and scream.....
I'll scream with you. AGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Feel better? I do.;)
We too have 50/50
And the kids are pretty young so there is contact with both parents through out the week. When they get a little older we will switch it to Every other week or something. It is the same year round though.
Daddys Gurl
It's Better To Have Loved And Lost, Than To Have Spent The Rest Of My Life With THAT PSYCHO!!!!
I wish
We use to have the same problem... I wish that they would have to see how it is on our side of things. We got christian every other weekend. Things happend and Well now we have him Mon-thur and every other weekend. But in the begining she didnt want Jordan to have him more then 1 day. When we Got Christian we made sure she had him on the friday's that she wouldnt have him on the weekends. I think that even though bad things happend she shouild still have time with him. Audrey
We are primary residential
We are primary residential custodial parent, we did give Bm same visitation rights we fought tooth and nail to get, our order says SD comes w/ us from last day of school and stays 2 weeks then goes to BM for 2 weeks, and so on, mostly every two weeks with the ability for us to have SD during two of our three family reunions- I love that our attorney was so detailed it has saved us from alot of struggle w/BM!
There is no reaon where logic does not exist
we talked to the lawyer..
and it seems that she doesn't want to negotiate...CONTROL FREAK...
Does it get very ugly in court? I am very sensitive and emotionally drained to deal with this.
My advice...
Hope for the best, expect the worse. Take your worst case scenario and expect that this might be what you have to live with. Hope and fight for what you want but don't be in shock if you don't get it. But have a little faith - judges don't want to make the decision for the two of them. They aren't very keen to people who won't negotiate. But know that it could get ugly.....or not. Sounds like it all depends on HER.
I know how you feel about being drained from all the drama but just take a deep breath....and make sure you take care of yourself.