I've been in my SS's life since he was two. He's 8 now. My husband and I have him four days of the week, his mother three. His mother is.. useless. I have truly done more of his raising than she has. My husband has deployed once, of course the schedule was kept during that time when SS was around four. Sometime during the age of six.. SS just.. became stagnant. He stopped developing intellectually, emotionally, socially, he just hit this odd plateau. He is failing school, miserably.