DH and I went to an informal talk with other couples about the challenges of marital life.

50% of the couples had kids. Besides us, 100% of every other couple was in their first marriage. 

I’m sorry. I know it isn’t right to compare and it doesn’t feel good when nonstep parents compare their situations to ours. But I’ve just got to pause and internally chuckle at the struggles I heard about from the couples who did not have children, let alone skids and BMs to contend with.