I'm trying to understand the transition from step daughter to step son but I'm finding it really difficult even though I've worked with children for 31 years. When I first got together with my husband 8 yrs ago things were all good as a step family, all getting on together. Since the transitioning has been happening things have taken a downhill spiral. I've not had any contact or seen my step child for 2 yrs and my husband won't involve me at all in their relationship. How am I supposed to fix this if we dont spend time together.