I googled "Co-Regulation" and see nothing but positive articles, lots of Parent/Child relationship stuff and some Partner/Spouse stuff. But nothing about what I vibe is going on with a friend of mine and her partner. The partner tells my friend they need to "Co-Regulate" each other but to me it looks like "Partner" is looking to manipulate and control my friend via these f*cking needy-as-hell "Co-Regulation" demands. 

I have two step daughters ages 13 and 18. For the last five years they are used by their mother to manipulate their dad. I’m so sick of it. Bonding with these two is impossible. I don’t want to lose my husband but he’s so dad blind.