There must be some drama on the horizon
SD15 has been moping around the house today after school...really acting it up. I went out to get some tea, and it just so happened to be when she was coming out of her room on her way to the TV room. She was dragging her feet, head down...she looked up at me with this look like someone killed her dog, put her head back down, and slithered on to the TV room. Not a word.
I went back out when I was done with my work to fix some dinner. SD15 comes into the kitchen. She can see clearing that I am fixing dinner...and obviously enough for everyone (I mean, I've NEVER been know to eat two lbs of ground beef on my own), but she still fixes herself a sandwich...and does it again like she is the saddest girl in the world...very slowly takes out each slice of ham and folds it to put on the sandwich. Seriously...I swear it took her as long to make that sandwich as it took me to brown the ground beef! She drug her feet back to the TV room, and very slowly ate her sandwich. Every time I happen to catch a glance of her, she has that sad, sad look on her face.
I didn't say a word to her...not one! I finished up dinner, made my helping, and took it to my room to eat, as I'm not dealing with trying to gain control of my own TV from her...just to get attitude and eye rolls, or more of the sad puppy looks as she slithers back to her room? No, DH can do that job when he gets home. He's hung up a little late at work, but knows I was going to eat without him...he knows I like to eat before 7:00 p.m. for dietary reasons (you are less likely to gain weight if you stop eating several hours before bed), and if I eat too late, I have a hard time falling asleep. SD15 knows that dinner is ready, but she won't get up to make herself a plate. She has to be told to do it! If you ask her why she doesn't just get some food, she will go into victim mode, "Oh, I didn't know I was allowed to have any of that!" Yeah...she loves to play that victim mode...especially when it involves me.
Yeah...I'm certain there is some drama going on. Probably still depressed about not making guard...it is typical for her to draw these kinds of things out for days upon days for the attention she gets from DH and others. Not me! Suck it up and deal with it, princess! Life is all about disappointments...you won't get that job, you won't get that promotion, you will see a dress you really, really want but won't have the money for it, someone WILL break your heart, your boss WILL yell at you at some point, you will be in at least one fender bender, etc. The world won't feel sorry for you!
My SD is in the living room
My SD is in the living room now....counting down the minutes until she leaves. Another night with no homework (supposedly). I came home late from work on purpose to minimize the time i have to spend hiding out in my room. Stupid sd.
DH is now home...SD15 moved
DH is now home...SD15 moved to the other side of the couch and is still playing up the depressed thing! She didn't say a word to DH either. Waiting to see if he is going to address it, as he's said several things to her with no response.
I had not heard that she
I had not heard that she failed in guard. My ol Pappy taught me that disappointment is a part of life. Better to learn it now rather than when it really counts later on. And you're right to not get sucked in. She had her chance with you and totally blew it. Maybe she'll learn and as an adult you two can make it happen. Just keep the door mentally ajar as she might surprise you down the line.
Yeah, she didn't get captain
Yeah, she didn't get captain or co-captain...so she is just a regular guard person. She has been moping ever since, but is acting super depressed today. I do my best to not feed into her behavior...the more attention the pouting gets her, the more she does it.
Oh...she finally speaks...to
Oh...she finally speaks...to ask DH how much it would cost to fix the screen on her iPod...which got broken at school, but she's not supposed to be taking to school! But she thinks dear daddy will just rush off and get it fixed! Yeah, she doesn't lift a finger around the house, but wants DH to spend $100+ to get yet another broken electronic fixed! Not if I have any say! Last I checked, DH didn't have an extra $100 lying around, and I'm not paying for it!
Oh...he still doesn't know about my promotion. I finally started seeing it in my last paycheck...paid BS19's upgrade fee for his college laptop since the education department requires a Mac (yes, he will have a teaching degree when he is done...phys ed). I'm making extra payments on my accounts and putting any extra left over in a separate account! Making sure to keep it away from SD15!
Good for you! That's what
Good for you! That's what I've started doing as well. I opened a separate account and anytime I get a raise or a bonus, the money goes into that account. I'll be damned if I'm going to bust my ass to make more money, only to have it given to one of the stepdaughters.
I'll give that extra money to a homeless person before I let any of my lazy stepdaughters touch it.
SD15 gets any hint that there
SD15 gets any hint that there is any money, and she suddenly has a list of "needs"! If DH says no to anything, she sicks BM on him. Doesn't matter where the money comes from...my money, BM will still demand that princess gets what princess wants! BM doesn't pay a cent of child support! BM thinks that now that my bios are adults, all money should go to her precious, and DH will cave to make BM leave him alone! I have to keep what I actually make to myself!
This is the second iPod SD15 has destroyed! The first one, she broke the screen, the screen was fixed, she broke the screen again, then lost it. I've lost count on the number of phones she has gone through...broken, lost. Other casualties include a laptop and two tablets. All of this over 3 years! She doesn't take care of anything!
how sad is it that these kids
how sad is it that these kids are so unhealthily attached to devices that they get super sad or upset when tehy are broken/lost/taken away? on the days SD doesnt have her stupid devices she will beg to go home early so she can play with her phone. seriously?? you see your dad 6-7 hours per week and you want to beg off and cut your visits short to spend time with your freakin' phone?
enjoy your extra money! hopefully someday, wehn your DH does find out, he will appreciate and understand why you kept it from him and i hope you have a fabulous retirement together enjoying trips and the like on the money you wisely saved for the two of you!
@lovn life...SD15 have a job?
@lovn life...SD15 have a job? I don't see that happening any time soon...if ever! We are probably lucky that she is even going to school, as she gets all bent out of shape if she has to lift a finger to do anything! Pick up her own crap, take the trash out...it is whole ordeal. BM has depended on her parents and men her whole life, and SD15 will probably try to get away with the same. I just pray it is not here! Oh heck no!
It is sad how dependent so many people are on their electronic devices these days! Even DH...he can't leave the house without his tablet and his phone at the very least. SD15 is constantly on her phone and iPod, and when one is broken, she will drive DH completely insane until it is fixed or replaced! You would think if they were so important to her, she would take better care to protect them, but in this day and age of entitlement, I guess not. I remember as a teen my records were one of the most important things to me, and I took extra special care of them. I nearly killed my step-brother once when he was messing with my turntable when I wasn't at home and scratched one of them! I still have every record I ever got! I seriously doubt that many teens of today will be able to say something similar when they are our age...that they have anything they saved from their youth...because to them, everything can be replaced at the blink of an eye, so why should anything be seen with any value, even if it is just sentimental!
i remember my first 10-speed.
i remember my first 10-speed. i used to wash it like a car, make sure it never got left out in the rain, always took care to lock it up when i was out and about. i loved that thing.
kids today are irresponsible and dont realize how lucky they are to have the things they have. they are total ingrates and their parents are total idiots for raising them this way.
the scary thing is this generation will reproduce someday.
Don't you know it! Kids in
Don't you know it! Kids in general these days don't know how to value anything! SD15 doesn't think twice about trashing my car. My bios were raised very different. When we drove up for college registration a couple of weeks ago, we stopped off to eat. Now, these days, SD15 is the only one with us in the car, with the exception of the college trips (no sense BS19 driving himself when we have to go for parent activities, as well). So, BS19 flip open the compartment in the center of the back seat to put his drink down, and it is full of food and trash! It is obvious how it got there...SD15 who is really the only one who rides back there! BS19 asked for some napkins, and took it upon himself to clean it up, because he knows how I am about my vehicle (and he is the same way with his). SD15 has always been like this with our cars...leaving food, spilling drinks, etc, and never caring. Yeah, I know...make a rule that there is no eating in the car. I try that, but DH overrules me when we are all together, because he doesn't want to stop and sit to eat if we are on a trip. But even if he did back me on the rule...every single time I clean out my car, I find all kinds of trash in the back seat...gum wrappers in the doors and stuff. I swear SD15 sits back there and cleans out her purse, and thinks that she can just leave anything she doesn't want in the back of my car! She gets mad at me when she is "rushed" that I will not allow her to put on her makeup in the car! Sorry, I don't feel like trying to get makeup off of my back seats!