This is serious, but I feel much better reading about what the Step Parent goes thru
My son justy turned 13, my husband who is his step father has been disrespected for over 3 years, he is ready to leave and after reading what everyone on here is saying, I can see why he wants to leave. Its the same things that are happening in our house. Except for one thing, I am friends with my ex husband and his wife, heck we even all go on vacation together. my ex and his wife have both told our son he needs to respect my husband, but I think it goes further in where I am not an anal parent and alot of things dont bother me, I have allowed my son to act the way he has been and the time has come for a change, either I can raise him or society, I choose me.
We had an intervention with my son a few weeks ago, all four adults have told him things need to change. A couple weeks have gone by and all those words fell on deaf ears, so I told him he is going to counseling, at this point my husband wants nothing to do with him, cant blame him but I wish he would participate in the counseling, right now he wont, but I am hoping he will change his mind and participate.
What Was Your Secret?
Hi Rosie...I dont have a comment about what you posted but rather a question at how you and your exes wife became friends? Did it take effort on your part, or hers or did it just take time to develop? Thanks for any info.
Maybe he'll come around
The rest of you should proceed with counseling. Your dh may change his mind about being a part of it. A lot of that will depend on you and how consistant you are with enforcing consequences if your son is disrespectful.
I was where your dh is. If my dh hadn't caught on and stopped allowing SS to disrespect me, I would have been gone. In my case it all changed because SS started to disrespect ALL in authority - not just me. Then it was bigger potatoes and dh jumped to make the change.
If your son is disrespecting your dh now and gets away with it, it's only a matter of time until he tries it on others in authority (whether it be a teacher, a boss, etc.) In my experience, it's only going to get worse if he learns he can get away with it.
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I agree with didddos on one thing... he's only 13 now, just wait until he's 16, 18...in his twenties! He'll be out of control.
Yeah, I say everyone stick to the counseling. Good luck to you! Let us know how it goes.
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Thank You!
It's really nice to see someone on the other side finally see what it is steps go threw. Stick with it, it will make a world of difference in your family life. Once again, "Thank You!"