OK...SD15 moved back in with BM. In 2 months she's lost 17lbs, her hair is falling out and she's eating a vegitarian diet, however, she doesn't like beans, nuts, eggs, salad, etc., which means she isn't eating anything but junk.

We had to have a big pow wow because BM felt that we weren't trating SD and SS the same. SD15 had been buying and smoking pot for 4 months...SS14 tried it with her once, admitted it, said he was sorry and would never do it again. SD15 isn't remorseful at all. By no means are these deserving of the same punishment. Also, during the "meeting", which was a blame DH for everything bash, we found out that SD has been cutting herself since 7th grade and BM didn't think it was important enough to share.

BM admittedly has Borderline Personality Disorder and is Bipolar. Now we have SD, who I love very much, lying and saying we're mean to her. That I called her fat, that her Dad has threatened her, etc. None of this is true, although I did tell her when she was eating margarine by the spoon full (I mean like 2 tablespoons at a time), 4-5 large bakery donuts at a time, or a whole jar of Nutella it would make her get fat.

She's scheduled for counseling next week. We also found out that even though she's supposed to have been grounded from the pot smokings, she's been allowed on FB, she's using BM's phone to call friends and she was going to be allowed to go to a dance last weekend? WTF.

When my DH called to talk to SS the BM's "wifey" lied and said they were all busy when they were actually watching TV...SS told us that one. He's sick of the hipocracy and being in the middle.