So I've had to restart as a new member as I was having some very bizarre technical issues, unfortunately that means all my background has gone.  So, just for context, I've been with my BF for 7 years this year.  He has 2 girls, 11 & 15.  We bought a house 5 years ago, I was 1 year into a relationship with his children at that time.  His ex wife is non HC thankfully. 

Anyway, I've had a great relationship with both girls, non issues, all good.  When thr eldest turned 14, she came for me (verbally).  It was a bolt out of the blue, a shock to the system and sent me down some dark paths of anxiety where, I never ate, slept, my life basically was turned upside down..... by a 14 year old.  It was a shock to me as I would never ever put up with someone like that pre relationship.  Id have swung anyone out by their pigtails if someone spoke to me like that in my parents house which is where I lived before this relationship.  I say there and took it, her mum was by her side, dad was also in the room who said nothing, I was attacked from all corners.

Anyway.. we bounced back from that but our relationship has never been the same as it was.  It has taken me a while to get to where I am now, with the help of this forum, the amazing posts I read by Rags (and others, but Rags has been the one for me to get my head back on track, so thanks!).  There have been a few bumps in road since, and dad has slowly started ro grow a backbone and start speaking up for me, backing me up, and see the passive aggressive stunts his eldest is playing, although there are times where he still has his blinkers on.  

More recently, we had a blow up, and dad fully backed me on it, didn't believe her, we nearly split up, and this is what happened..

Teenage step daughter sneakily and quietly removes you from FB and you only realise when you go to tag her in something she would appreciate, and it says 'Add Friend'.

When confronted, the excuse is, 'I kept getting notifications from you and I didn't know how to disable them so it was easier to remove you sorry".

I hardly posted that week so not sure where the notifications were coming from, and out of all her 50 friends, I was the only one 'with notifications' yet all the family (her side and dads) all remain on her friend list.

Of course I took it personally and it blew up big time.  Dad finally took my side and told her he didn't believe her.  I detached a while ago but this was the icing on the cake to literally DETACH FOR GOOD. The fact I was singled out while all her family remained was the point I was trying to make.

This is a kid who has turned on me for no reason, sent me through some darks times of anxiety and low self esteem and self worth, my relationship has been on the line, but I'm now at the point if it blows up again you can look TF out.

Since then, any photo or tagged status that was on her profile that included me has been removed by the little turd.

Notifications issue? Yeah right