I am about my absolute max for patience with this boy. His mother has done nothing but coddle him for most of his life and he is turning into such a little brat and mommas boy! He is 13 and is spoiled, ungrateful, DRAMATIC, and lazy. I could write for days about all the things that bother me. Recently though he is on my last nerve, he'll spend all day moping and telling his mom how sad and depressed he is and that he just wants to move back with his dad because he just can't deal with all the stress of his school and activities in his new school. Fist of all, he is the one who wanted to move away from a small town so he could have more opportunities and now because he has more than a minimum load and can't be on youtube all afternoon he "Can't deal", so now he wants to move back to a town that's so small it takes 5 minutes to drive through. And we're letting him! Or at least his mother is. If it were up to me I would keep him here for the entire school year and make him follow through with his commitments. Because that's how life works, you can't just quit when things aren't going exactly your way. But he has not motivation to even try to tackle his stuff. If it's not easy it's hard. It's annoying! he has no integrity, or motivation, or burning desire for anything and it bothers me. It goes against everything I was taught.

The other day I had a talk with his mother about all of the things he has and things he should be grateful for, instead of throwing everything under the bus or hating everything all the time. And she agreed and said that I made a good point and he really doesn't have much to complain about. She was supposed to talk to him while I was on my way home from work, but when I got home I found her upset because he made this speech about how he's so depressed and unhappy and blah blah and he totally manipulated her feelings. He used his crocodile tears and threats of suicide to make her feel bad, and then he turned around and went on his happy way to play video games! I don't think a suicide threat should be taken lightly, but you could totally see that he wasn't genuine about his sadness. His mother, bless her heart, was so sad the rest of the day and he went on to being his usual self. It took all my patience to not blow up and start yelling at both of them.

Maybe I'm wrong to think that he's manipulating her, but he has just become such a brat and a liar lately that I don't believe anything he says. Kids can be depressed and have bad thoughts too, I understand that. It's just that I can see that he is so not genuine about most of it. I know him, I'm the one to call him on his shit when his mom doesn't see it. Don't know what I'm asking here, but any words of advice or just anything would help. I'm losing my mind, and my patience, and if this continues any further I may just lose this relationship.