Stop letting BM rent space in your head--you're the one who's paying for it.

I don't know or care what BM's love life is looking like. I'll occasionally hear skid say, "mom's boyfriend Chuck" then a few months later I'll hear, "mom's boyfriend Mitch" and sometimes months go by with no mention of any "mom's boyfriend". I don't care. If she has one, if she doesn't, if she gets married, if she doesn't, if she screws the entire starting lineup for the Denver Broncos, it doesn't affect my life in the least.

The only time I will ever bother to take any interest in her love life is if skid tells me that "mom's boyfriend" hurt him. Then I will drag her ass down along with her boyfriend. That's the only time I'd want to know who the hell he is, where he lives and which police department I need to call to arrest his abusive ass.

You are too valuable to let her live in your head. Evict her.

I really don't care what goes on in BM's life, I know what kind of person she is regardless. She is on her fifth husband, so she has found men to marry her; she's still an ugly, evil person. That's her problem, not mine - at least since CS ended. We deal with her not at all.

Oh do renew your vows. Have a great celebration. Put the bride pic in the paper with the details of the event, do it up. Get an amazing hot wedding dress, etc...

We just renewed our vows In Aug on our 20th in my brides home town in the heart of Sperm Land. The Sperm Clan was completely put out by it. It was awesome. }:) }:) }:)

Sperm Grandhag vented repeatedly to the SKid that we did not need to spend all of that money, whine, bitch, moan, gnash the sparse snaggle teeth, while shaking her patchy haired apparently mange covered head it was classic. As soon as the Skid told them we were flying him to Sperm Land to participate in our vow renewal the Sperm Clan started their manipulations insisting that he stay with them, that if he was in Sperm Land it was their time even if we were the ones that paid for the tickets for him to fly to our family event. We did book his return flight so he could have a weekend with his three younger also out of wedlock Sperm Idiot spawned half sibs by two other baby mamas but that was not even recognized by or remotely enough for THEM. They invested countless calls and tears in trying to guilt the kid into staying with them including the night of the day of our ceremony.

The pic of my stunning 6'0" very curvy fit graduate degreed CPA designer wedding dress clad MILF bride in the local paper with a nice column on the event at a very posh local winery and how the bride and groom were traveling in from overseas for the event to celebrate with friends and family and that the ceremony would be officiated by the couple's son who serves in the USAF gave Sperm Grandhag and the Sperm Idiot apoplexy. Yep, it clearly said (MBA CPA) next to her name. The mention of "the couple's son" with no mention of the Sperm Idiot or Sperm Clan sent Sperm Grandhag into orbit. Her rants to SS were epic. He stood his ground with confidence and let her know that this event was to celebrate his mom and dad's 20th and had nothing to do with the Sperm Clan. Sperm Grandhag even vented that it was not fair that the half sibs (sister and two bros) were not invited since they were SS's sibs. :jawdrop: :?

We had an awesome time. My FIL got to finally walk my stunning bride down the isle (we eloped 20 years ago) and I was able to give my bride what I have wanted since we married which was a nice wedding in her home town in front of her friends and family. She has always been sensitive to her history in her home town as that girl who got pregnant while in HS. She was 16 when SS was born.

The amazing cap to our renewal was that my brides adult adoption by her dad was finished days before the wedding and she gave the papers to her daddy at the reception. My DW's bio dad (MIL's first DH) was killed in a car wreck before they knew my MIL was pregnant with my bride. My FIL whose family are old friends with MIL's family was in the delivery room with my MIL when DW was born and they married when my bride was 2mos old.

The final laugh came when a couple weeks after SS returned to his duty station after our wedding when we talked. While the new and none improved Sperm Idiot was leading his 4 spawn on a nature hug the trees (yes, he hugged a tree) hike expounding on his wishes that they be good people like him he told the SKid that he had the paper with his mom's wedding pic. After a quite few seconds he asked the Skid "Do you think your mom still loves me a little bit?" The skid choked, chuckled, shook his head, walked of down the trail leaving the Sperm Idiot pouting in the dust. The Skid is way over his the antics and pathetic state of his Sperm Clan.

Have fun at your renewal. We did, and the residual laughs over the Sperm Clan's pathetic antics just make the event that much sweeter.

}:)