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I honestley don't know where to begin. My step daughter who is 13 is very disrespectful and breaks every rule we set even the little ones. This past saturday she got mad at me for taking her cell phone and kicked me in the chest which caused to cracked ribs. The ER made me press charges against her and now she is gonna get probation.But see she has already been on probation for pushing me in to a wall and for biting her little brother who at the time was only one. She is not getting any better and I just wish we had a place to send her. Am I a horrible step mom for wanting her gone out of this home. She tells me she wants to kill all the time. She tells me to shut my mouth when I try to talk to her about anything. I am so lost. I am the only one with step children who act this way. Oh and her Dad backs me up 100% and her bio mother is not in the picture at all.
You didn't mention if she was
You didn't mention if she was in counseling. But is she isn't it sounds like she needs some and maybe family as well- there is a lot of anger but getting physical is where I would have to draw the line.
I hope someone on here has some better suggeastions for you.
Yes she has been in
Yes she has been in counseling for two years now. Half of them the family is in on them for a group counseling.
Yes she has been tested for
Yes she has been tested for all of these things. The first time she hurt me.
I have 2 ss like this one 13
I have 2 ss like this one 13 and one 11. The 13 yr old has been diagnosed with ODD(oppositional defiance disorder) and ADHD. The 11yr old has been diagnosed with ADHD and bi-polar disorder.Their father has so far kept them out of trouble but I think that is coming to an end. My husband ended up doing the 13yr old community service at one point to keep him from juvenile hall. In the last year he has become sexually aggressive with his sibling and for the safety of the other we had to send him to live with his mother. Turns out that had no effect, he kept on and CPS removed him from her care and asked for other resources or he would go to foster care. SOOOO now he lives with my MIL and she is now experiencing the aggressive and excessive behaviors. He has seen counselors,therapists,psychologist and has been in a behavioral hospital all to no avail.
YOU are not a bad person or a bad step mom! It sounds like this young lady needs help and if you can't find any(and it is hard to find) you have to protect yourself and your other children! this is something I have gone rounds with my husband over. While he thinks in terms of all 6 of the children I have a biological responsibility to watch out for my 3 if he can't accept that they are endangered by his son.
one other note when we sent
one other note when we sent my ss to live with his bm it was an ultimatum from CPS. Either my husband let his oldest son go or they would take all of our children! He couldn't understand that by keeping him in our home he was willingly exposing the other children to a known danger! I hope you find the help you need!! if you do please let me know about it!! God Bless