As if the cutting in the past wasn't bad enough. Or the getting caught with alcohol at school. Or even the suspected eating disorder. Today, my husband tells me his ex finally got around to telling him that the REAL reason my SD moved in with us in September was because she was experimenting with pot! So now we can add drug use to the long list? And it was BM that demanded my SD move back with her not 3 days after my SD moved in with us...and my husband had to talk her into keeping my SD for the semester (SD is now back to living with BM, and, as some may have read, got suspended from school for destruction of property within the first 2 weeks).

However, again, all my husband does is have a little talk with her. Then, it is all hugs and back to treating her like she is a total princess who can do no wrong. BM doesn't do anything either. I'm sorry...if she were my kid, she would not be in dance, or cheerleading, or any of this other crap until she could prove that she could keep herself out of trouble and away from the wrong people, and right after getting suspended from school, she would have definitely been grounded from her phone and computer for at least a week, if not longer!

The kid turns 14 in a couple of weeks...starts high school next school year. Yep, the more and more stuff comes out that BM and SD has been hiding, the more and more I get this feeling that the kid isn't even going to finish high school. Even my bio-daughter (who is 22), who didn't have a perfect run through her teen years (I don't know very many teens who do with all the crap these days), didn't get into this much trouble, and says that my SD will probably be pregnant by 16...that she acts like the girls she knew in school who ended up doing just that and dropping out! My bio-daughter didn't even take her first drink until she was nearly 16, NEVER got in trouble at school (may not have wanted to do her work, but she would at least be respectful or just sit there quietly), never got in trouble with the law, and to this day thinks drugs are the dumbest thing on the planet! She now works double-shifts and has her own place...doesn't even do the club scene (says she just feels like staying home with a small group of friends playing video games or watching movies). My bio-son is 18...works hard...sure, I have to be on him about his grades...but he plays football, participates in track and field, and spends most of his free time at work. He doesn't drink at all, also thinks drugs are stupid, and doesn't get into any trouble at school. He also doesn't give me any crap, like my SD does! I guess that's the difference between parenting and discipline, and trying to make your kids like you or be their best friend! My daughter HATED me there for a while...I was tough on her when she was getting into trouble! She is now my best friend (now that I don't have to be mom), and apologized for being a butt and said that she probably would have gotten into worse trouble had I not been on her case and looking out for her. My son and I get along great, too, even though I do still have to be mom with him...he's 18.