BM is so weird!
My SD looks EXACTLY like my fiance. Same eyes, nose, hell they even have the same toes/feet. She unfortunately is a carbon copy of her mother in terms of personality and attitude, however.
BM posted a pic of her and SD on her Facebook as a profile pic (the only one i can see as im not friends with her for obvious reasons). The comments are insane! Two people said how much she looks like BM and BM replied "yes, she looks and acts exactly like me" and someone else made a mini-me comment.
They are all freakin' delusional! I mean ive always known that BM felt she created SD without any sperm but my goodness she is making every effort to erase her child's father. I know she shares these comments and photos (always selfies of the two of them) with SD.
I think so, too, TGHIB. Sad
I think so, too, TGHIB. Sad thing is, I don't think SD15 looks like DH at all. Knowing BM, I've always wondered. I mean, they weren't married when she got pregnant...they married because they were dating when she became pregnant, and the baby was assumed to be DH's. Shortly after SD15 was born, BM was caught sleeping with other guys! So, yeah...I've always wondered. But DH has always claimed the child, and BM has always said it was his (well, outside of one really bad fight when SD15 was about 4 when BM said something to the tune of she wasn't 100% sure that SD15 was his). Of course BM would say this, though...because IF SD15 is not DH's, and BM admitted it, she would lose the child support for all those years...so if she is keeping a secret, she played along nicely. Of course, after 15 years, it is a bit late to try to figure it out. I personally can't believe that DH didn't ask for a paternity test when he caught BM sleeping around after SD15 was born! As part of the divorce, I would have been certain to ask for a paternity test! Not trying to get out of being a parent, but due to the nature of the relationship, there are reasons to doubt, and I wouldn't want to get stuck dealing with a person like BM for who knows how long if I didn't have to!
knowing our crappy court
knowing our crappy court system he probably still would have been on the hook for CS even if it was proven she wasnt his kid.
still, someday id be tempted to steal her hairbrush and something of your DH's and get the test done, just for shits and giggles.
Probably! Especially since BM
Probably! Especially since BM went on welfare when they separated because why should she have to get a job! The system would want to make sure someone paid that child support so they wouldn't have to pay her as much! They would have pulled the "well, you signed the birth certificate" argument...even though BM gave plenty of reason after that event to doubt it.
i just dont get it? do they
i just dont get it? do they have a self esteem or self worth problem? do they think that they cant love their child or that their child will love them less if they dont look like them?
Reminds me of the time my
Reminds me of the time my first wife, her first born and I were walking down the street and a older lady stopped and said what a wonderful family we seemed and "Oh My but the boy and you look exactly alike". Or words to that effect.
Ha, no lady he doesn't look anything like me but we just accepted it as a compliment and went on our way. Like someone said above a lot of those comments are just faint praise. Notice its always comparing mother and daughter - father and son.
Put a picture of the kid where BM can see it on-line and have some friends comment on how much she looks like you. Really play with BM's mind.
LOL...a visitor at church
LOL...a visitor at church this past Sunday said that SD15 looked like me! I wanted to scream that she wasn't mine, but I politely told her that she was my step-daughter. Then, she said, "Oh...it must be the hair." SD15 unfortunately has decided to dye her hair the same dark cherry red that I use...gag.
well next month is the
well next month is the infamous photo shoot so im sure that my fiance will put as his profile pic one of him and SD.
My Skid and I regularly are
My Skid and I regularly are told he is just like me. We used to just laugh and say thanks or I would say "That's my boy!". We have never looked like each other but I have raised him as my own since before he was 2yo. He sounds like me, thinks like me, acts like me, cares like me, etc....
I am good with that. I am proud to have saved him from the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool. I frequently thank his mom for making me a dad
You are one of the lucky few
You are one of the lucky few there! Unfortunately, some of our skids have been soaking in the polluted end of the gene pool their entire lives! I love when DH says that SD15 is nothing like her mother. I find my self thinking, "Are you blind, dumb, or both?" Lying, manipulative, thinks the world revolves around her? If that isn't just like her mom, her mother must be a wonderful person....NOT!
Ha, my DH recently said SD18
Ha, my DH recently said SD18 is just like him and I said, "Oh??? I've never heard you constantly belittle someone or nitpickingly point out to anyone how you hate this-that-the other and everything about their home." "Um, well, uh, yeah, that's her mother...". Like I said...
LOL...so sounds like a
LOL...so sounds like a conversation that would happen in our house!
I understand that our blended
I understand that our blended family experience is far better than most. Maybe it is because I am stubborn and can't stand stupid people, manipulation, and toxic behavior and I respond to that crap by confronting and destroying it as completely as I can facilitate.
Having a bride that is at least reading the same book definitely empowers me to do what I can to protect my Skid and my family from the forces of evil and darkness.