Ok, so BM calls DH the other day to rant and rave about how I'm just mean and a fake! All because I jumped SD13 the other night for screaming at DH. Of course DH proceeded to tell BM about how the whole time she was in jail I took care of SD and that I"m trying to discipline her for being disrespectful and flat out rude. Of course that went over real well.

Jump to today- DH just calls to tell me he's been cussed out by BM. SD13 has a counseling appointment tonight...let me back up....SD13 NEEDS counsling bad with all that she's been through. When she first came to live with us, we had discussed it (by we I mean BM, DH and I) and decided it was the right thing to do. BM then stated she wanted to be the one that took SD to get the referral. Well weeks went by and still no appointment. Then BM decides that SD doesn't need it. It wasn't until an incedent happend at school and SD finally told DH "maybe I want counseling" (in one of her back-talk moments) that BM finally took her to the Dr and got it set up. I work for a law firm and was told of a counselor that works well with teens in these situations so I called the Dr's office and got her referred to him. Told BM this. I had called the Dr and wanted to figure out how we needed to handle appointments and such since we have joint custody. He told me that the first appointment BM would take her in and second appointment DH and I would take her. That way everyone had a chance to say their peace and he coule meet us all. Jump to the phone call a few minutes ago...so BM is pissed because she apparently thought she was taking SD to the appointment today (our night with SD), DH told her no, we are taking her because we need to meet Dr and have a chance to talk to him. DH told her that I had talked to the Dr before SD first appointment about this. Well that just pissed her off even more. She couldn't believe that WE had picked out the Dr and not her. She KNEW this when it all got set up. DH reminded her and then said it's the same as when we told her that SD was grounded from spending the nights with friends because of her grades (BM didn't recall that conversation either). Anyway, I guess she thought she was going to take her to all of her appointments so that she could bash us and not have the truth come out about what BM has done to screw this child up.

This whole situation is getting way out of hand. BM wants to be SD "best friend" instead of parent so DH and I are the mean ones. And of course after the other night when I got on to SD, I'm sure that makes BM even more mad that she's not going to have a chance to tattle on me to the DR. DOES IT EVER GET ANY BETTER???? I HATE this. I really wish we didn't have to deal with any of this BS, but DH asked for it when he took BM to court for custody. See they were never married and no custody had ever been set until this summer. WE should have done all of this when BM was in jail.

Thanks for listening- had to let it out and no one else seems to understand. I love this website, I'm sooooo glad I found it.