Preference always given to sd
Hi
I will go into further details if needed but have about 30 minutes to type this before I get home and am looking for some guidance/advice.
I have two step daughters and we have a daughter together. My sd are always ill every other weekend there is some lurg to deal with. Am quite relaxed as figure children get ill. But the weekend just gone we got treated to tonsilitis. My 2 year old seems to have now contracted it and is rapidly losing her voice, has been sick, temperature. I work Mondays and its my partners day off so is looking after her. He rang me today as didnt want the older sd to be late for school so missed getting toddler to the gp on time. In itself i can understand this. However i received a ranting call from hom at 1pm shouting she wont eat and hasnt eaten or drunk all day. I calmly suggested he go calm down and realise she is sick so probably doesnt want to eat and will do in her own time. The level of rage in his voice i found unacceptable like shes doing it on purpose!!! I have left work to get to my daughter as am not comfortable leaving her with him. This is the first issue which is a major one with alarm bells ringing. Second issue our sds are always put preferentially over our toddlers and i am coming to the end of my tether. I find it upsetting that my daughters needs are constantly put ont the backburner and his general attitude to her. Any thoughts. Pearls of wisdom. She deserves more i think than being put last all the time.
The older child getting to
The older child getting to school on-time was more important than a very sick toddler getting to the doctor? That is wrong on it's own. In ANY family, blended or in-tact, members of the family make sacrifices when one needs extra help to get healthy/well again. In my household, SD has missed a couple days of school for my 13 month old son's medical appointments (he goes to another city about an hour away for hearing tests a couple times a year and we can't pick her up/be home to get her on those days).
I find it odd that he'd let his youngest child suffer/not see a doctor in favor of bringing the oldest child to school on time, and I'm one who believes school is VERY important and shouldn't be missed/treated as optional. But aside from that, is there any measures being taken to ensure minimal contact between SDs and your youngest child when they are sick? When you have school-aged kids and toddlers/babies living in the same place, it's ok to keep them apart when sick.
Have you talked to him about his preferential treatment? What does he say?
So very sorry
Hope your little one is oK.
Some men have trouble multi-tasking. In the future, you need to tell him to write out a time line. If 2YO needs to be at doctor, and older one at school at same time, he needs to find out (LIKE NOW, BEFORE IT IS EMERGENCY), can older one be dropped off early? Is there a friend she can dropped off at early? Then you call friend the night before.