Should I move to another state with my fiance without my kids. The last few years have been really rough for me. I fell into major depression and started using drugs. I had 5 kids during this time. My oldest in 8 and my youngest is 1. The relationships didn't work out, the women wanted me to stay on drugs and they were the party type. I was also tricked by my best friend at the time who was a lesbian and wanted a baby. She said that she would not put me on child support and she just wanted a baby for her and her girlfriend to raise. When the baby was born she broke the agreement and put me on child support. I don't mind taking care of the kid because she is both our child in spite of her mom lying about the agreement. I turned my life around. I work and I go to school. I met a wonderful woman and I want to get married. We weren't planning on having children. We used birth control and she is pregnant. It will be her first child. I want to marry her and do things right but she is scared to get married because of my past. There is no drama with my children's mothers. I'm not on child support for my other children but I send their mothers money every month and spend time with them with other weekend. She wants to move to another state for her job. I can get a job transfer. She says that if I move with her she will marry me and she will help me pay child support, but she says none of the children can live with us but we can visit them and they can stay for the summer. She says she wants our child to have a normal life. I want to move for better opportunities, but I know my kids will want me to stay. What should I do?