Pulling my hair out!
What to do when BM won't do anything about Bad grades? my SS is failing most of his classes in school, when I say failing, I mean "F" and she shruggs it off to not applying himself.... she moved 3 hours away, and its hard for my husband to be a full time parent with the distance. my SS is 13 and he got grounded by his bio mom for not going to church.... weird... but not for grades, he still gets to use computer, TV and video games..... I guess that is to keep him out of her hair??? who knows.
when he got to our house for his weekend, his father talked to him about his grades and how important they are and told him he could not get on the computer until he improves, well, on Saturday night in the middle of the night he was on my lap top looking a porn. we did not find out until he left on Sunday, when my Bio daughter told me she got up around 1 to get water, he was on my computer....anyway, we did a history search to see what he was doing. were we shocked!
Anyway, my DH called the bio and she I guess just does not understand, and had nothing to say about it, here it is Thursday, and the kids have not called there father back after leaving msg.
Anyone else having this issue???
We had these issues when SS
We had these issues when SS was right around 13 or 14. No matter what DH tried with BM, nothing changed.
Now, SS is 16 - on probation for misdemeanor drug charges, which were originally felony charges (he faked a suicide attempt to get leniancy). He only comes to our house once in a great while, and when he does - DH usually takes him home 1/2 way through the visit because he can't behave himself around me or our 7 month old baby.
I'm not trying to sound negative or harsh - but unless BM changes her parenting, he's already on a course. Reading a lot of other posts on here, many of the skids started out like this - no punishment, no rules.
The kids are destined for crappy lives unless BOTH parents stand their ground and be parents!!