What do I do here?!
No longer engaged to BF due to the turmoil over the last 5yrs of corrupted family court, racism, a would be 8yr old SS that has zero social skills, cognitive skills for his age. I have maintained a lot of patience and support for them until this last December. Courts keep kicking the can to pull the SS out of the BM home. BM suffers from Multiple borderline personality disorder. Well over a handful of contempts of courts, assaults filed with police depts, her friend who is a state rep intervened and filed a baseless child services case on us both, forcing us into court ordered therapy, continues harassment from BM, accused of aggression when given video proof of otherwise and still punished and no longer allowed to be at drop offs which are on sundays at dinner time. So F has to drive back another half hour and get me and my son and then we can go to dinner if we had to. Super convenient. BM attacked father at a police depts on video while at drop off and footage given to GAL and attorneys, during the same weekend BM also went and got married to the guy that physically assaulted BF during custody exchange and was warranted a no contact order put in place for this guy and their son. BM has gotten away with so much already she knew she would be able to blatantly ignore this one too and married that guy, moved him in the home with the minor child and then packed up the house she refused to move out of for 2yrs and then was awarded in the decree. After court ordered to move. GAL and attorneys to this day have done zero. They're enabling it because she a mom. It's absolutely disgusting to me this state does this. On top of this BF is a USAF veteran and they just use that against him and portray him as unhinged because BM filed more bogus ordered when they were separated. BF was awarded a VPO and she violated that all the time. Zero consequences. Hit BF's best friend with her vehicle intentionally on camera at a place of business. After telling him he could come get his stuff from a storage unit. Provided a key and gate code told him he had till a certain day to get it. This was when she knew we were moving in together. She stalked the unit until he showed up to see how big the load was and if he needed the Uhaul. He came back the next day and after letting her know he would be by this day instead and talked to the place and they said that was fine. BM changed the gate code and lock to prevent him getting in. Sat there blocking them in the Uhaul. Someone let them in and they went around her using the exit. When they retrieved the items from the unit and were leaving she was still there blocking them and other people. When best friend got out to punch in the gate code to open the gate which was behind her car, she reversed it twice to hit him knocking him down. Police report made, videos of footage were compromised because of her state rep friend called in a favor to make it disappear and it did. Can't even find it in public records. BF had a trial coming up for all this contempt and GAL went into early labor and now it's postponed till August and nothing changes for BM or SS and they are all living together against orders. I personally so nothing happening for BF to go in his favor to get his kid away from this situation. Guy that BM married also has a criminal history from Washsing for SA, Meth, , stalking, harassment, shoplifting and evictions just last year! And this is enabled. Smh.
Ontop of all of this court stuff his SS is just like his mom. Lies, does things he knows he shouldn't just for attention. Always loud, obnoxious, can't sit on his butt even when told. Has zero situational awareness. Zero manners. Refuses to do things kids his age do on their own. IE: brush your teeth, get dressed, clean your room, you spill something you clean it up not just leave it or look at it and expect someone else to. Make a bowl of cereal for yourself. Even when you have an older child literally next door doing all these things and at no point does he think, oh he's brushing his teeth maybe I should too. Or he's making a bowl of cereal I'm hungry too I'll make me one. Not wait hours and hours to ask someone (BF) to make him breakfast or lunch. Fridge isn't locked, pantry is open. He is very fake like his BM also. All of his reactions are overly dramatic and loud. He doesn't want to do anything involving rules or team players. We don't do board games anymore with him because he acts up when he is losing because he refuses to listen to the rules of the game and play by those rules to win. So he ruins the entire experience so we aren't enjoying it anymore and he gets attention on him. I cannot stand him. I had tried to activities with him, taking him with me and my son to do stuff. Just a miserable time because he can't function normally. BF is in full denial and holds my son to higher expectations than his own. I have since decided to walk away from this after 5yrs. I can't keep putting myself and my son through this and deal with this psychopath of a BM, and corruption. It's too much for me to handle and keep my sanity and health. It's caused major weight loss due to stress. I'm struggling to maintain at 105lbs at my age (38) I'm extremely bitter now with certain people and when things aren't done morally correct because it just reminds me of what else is blatantly not being done rightfully so and nobody cares. I'm in therapy for all of this but I can't help feeling like I'm a horrible person for walking away and not being able to handle it.
I've already started looking at places and goal is to be out by May 1st and peacefully. I want to leave the last 5yrs behind and if I could I would move out of state and start over completely! Last 5yrs feel like a dark twilight zone or Murphy's Law. And I just can't endure much more. Mentally I simply cannot.
I know that's a loooong brief insight to this 5yrs of turmoil. I appreciate anyone that has any helpful advice or suggestions to curb some thoughts.
You're definitely not horrible
Please don't have one guilty thought for getting yourself and your son away from this dangerous situation. If you were my daughter, I'd be helping you find a new place or moving you in with me. Stay strong, Virginia, you can do this. All best wishes for your new chapter.
I appreciate your kind words
Thank you for the support. It brought tears to my eyes beacuase I don't have my own mother in my life so that would be a nice feeling to have. Your kind words give me stregth in this decision. Thank you.
Bravo to you.
I completely understand the fury that can happen when working within the noxious norms of bottom 10%ers of the legal profession in their idiot Harry Potter robes slinging their wooden toddler's Fisher-Price hammers while intervening to prevent toxic dipshits from living the consequences of their actions while cursing a child to be forced into the odoriferous presence of the shallow and polluted end of their gene pool.
Nowhere near at the level you have lived for the last 5yrs.
One thing that stands out, the BM, her criminal BF, SS, the courts.... though no mention of your blessedly STBXSO. He has to own at least some of this shit show.
Live well for yourself and for your child. We all owe that to ourselves and our kids.
Take care of you and enjoy living your best life. Which is also the best revenge.
Agreed
I agree. And, that's one of my biggest issues with my now ex fiance. Zero ownership. Deep denial about his kids mental state, capabilities, antics and how he treats him as well. Kid has access to a phone and not once made a call to call his dad when he's been asked and told to. But, he can call his dad when he remembers that his dad said he would bring him a Nintendo Switch to his school to play on during electronic day. He remembered to do that for sure. Can't call to keep us looped in on what's going on over there. We had no idea that the BM's now husband was even there until I searched the local court site and saw they got married and then we asked him. Then, we get info. He's obviously team mom. He's been kept in this naive mindset that he can't do thing for himself. He's entitled and doesn't care about others at all. He puts on a big show for his dad though. Talks in a baby voice and lisp on purpse because it's nto like that all the time. His BF doesn't see things from our perspective and just makes the excuse that he does want to be here. (Of course he does, we are the wealthier parents and bigger house and gets to do what he wants here then go back to his moms. It's a vacation every other weekend) That if he was with us more he would act right, and that I'm just evil and picking on his kid. Which then makes me feel horrible. And, I shut down and isolate to just me and my kid and then BF and I get worse. It's a vicious cycle every other weekend and holiday and I don't want to do it anymore. I do love that man and wanted to spend my life with him forever. But, not like this. And, I love myself and my son much more and want to be proud of my life. I'm not proud of this life at all. It's embarassing and humilating.
Other than that Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?
.What about this failed man, failed partner, failed parent could there possibly be to love? He did not love you enough to even shield you from his failed family baggage much less actually fix it. He did not love you enough to step up to be your equity life partner.
Time to up your standards I think.
Not to be mean at all. Please learn from this and never tolerate anything remotely similar to this in a romantic interest ever again.
Equity life partners are also equity parents to any spawn in the mix regardless of what parent combination spawned them. He has failed to effectively be your equity life partner and has failed as an equity parent. You have raised your child to standards of performance and standards of behavior that have resulted in your child not being anything like his entitled, baby talking lisping spawn of hell.
My DW of 30 years and I landed on this model fairly early in our blended family marriage. I have no BKs. She brought a toddler to the marriage. I raised SS-32 as my own from the day we married the week before he turned 2yo. We dated for 9mos before that. His mom and I raised him together. We are proud of the man of character, honor, character, and standing in his profession and community that we raised. Sadly, his Spermidiot has much in common with your XSO, the BM, and the criminal StepDad. We made protecting my SS's best interests our fondest hobby for the first 16+ years of our marriage. He was our top responsibility. Though each other and our marriage have always been uncontested priority.
When she did not like how I was parenting or disciplining I made it clear that if she did not like how I was doing it that she could step up and get it done before I had to. Or she could bite her tongue, have my back, and we could discuss it in private later.
Your fortunately XSO failed miserably. Do not mitigate his failures with your fee fees of love. His noxious baby talking lisping spawn having more time in daddy's home and with you would have done absolutely nothing to improve that kid unless dipshitiot daddy defined, set, and enforced clear standards of behavior and standards of performance for his failed family spawn. I do not have a single fiber of empathy for parents like this guy. They are what they are and they raise crap humans.
That... is not you. That is him.
You have nothing to be embarrassed or humiliated about. That is all on his idiot ass. Be proud of the parenting you have done with your own son. Do not let this dipshitiot detract from your best life with you assuming some naive level of guilt for his dumb assed bullshit.
Not SParent related or specifically relationship related. However, in my mid 20s I moved on with living my best life when my serially adulterous XW ran off with her geriatric Fortune 500 executive sugar/baby daddy when she got knocked u and I had a falling out with one of my primary business partners. Two months after the divorce was final I forced the sale of my share of the company I founded when I was in my early 20s. I had developed a business model and recruited investors to fund the formation and oparations of the company. TThe company purshased, held, and operated restaurant franchises. Some we kept and operated, others we implemented management and operatons best practices for returning them to profitability then flipped them. I had 5 primary investors. My parents who owned 26%, another couple who owned 26%, 5 couples that each owned 8%, and I retained 8%. I was the COO/Corporate Agent/GM. The two 26% share holders traded off the CEO and COB roles every 3 years. When my dad shifted from CEO to COB and the other 26% owner couple assumed the CEO role (the MBA husband took the role), he and I did not see eye to eye on company operations. He throught he was Lee Iococa though our compnany was only about $1.8Mil in revenue. It took us 18mos to reach profitability and we were increasing consistently from their. Though it had nothing to do with my divorce, a couple of months after it was final the CEO ordered a major change in leadership structure at the operations level. As COO, I did not agree. I sent him a counter proposal informing him that either he agreed to my proposal or the postage cancelation date on the envelope my counter proposal was mailed in was the date of my 2wk notice of resignation and that he and the other owners had to buy me out at the end of the 2wk notice period. All of the 8% owners had this capability in the articles of incorporation. The CEO lost his damned mind. All of the other owners were expats living and working overseas. I was the only owner in the US. The CEO refused my resignation and informed me that he was calling the Chairman of the Board to deal with me. The COB, being my dad. The CEO was in the US on a vacation as all of this unfolded. He had flown in while I was on vacation, locked himself in the business office, not allowing the manager on duty to open the business. I got a panic call from the manager on duty that day. This was pre cell phone days so he had to hunt me down through a series of contact phone numbers I had left for him. Once the manager got hold of me I told him to not answer the lobby phone. Then I repeat dialed the office phone constantly until the CEO finally picked up. I told he he had to open the office so the business could open and that the mall management company was already fining us by the 15minute increment for not being open. The register drawers were in the safe in the office. He begrugingly let the manager in. I had to end vacation early, make a marathon 20+ hour drive to deal with it all.
The night after the CEO refused my counterproposal, I called my dad and informed him that the CEO was going to be calling him. There was a pregnant pause of silence for a period until my dad replied. "He already has. I have one thing to say to you. What the hell took you so long?" That was when I commited to living my best life. My buyout by the other investors paid for the next two years of my engineering degree program. I moved to another state and got on with life after the divorce and company drama. That is where 3 years later I met my incredible bride of 30 years.
So..... What the hell took you so damned long?
Get on with your life! No guilt and no baggage.
Take care of you. Take care of your son. Thrive in your new life adventure as he and his baggage fade behind you.
Envious
This was perfect timing.
Last night we had a HUGE volatile screaming match about this.
He is not understanding this at all and what position myself and my son have been put in for the last 5 years and how it's not going to ever get any better even with his son in the home FT. Damage has been done. He's 8 about to be 9. And still wets the bed. Child says his mom said the doctor said he will stop at 9. I explained to him that's not how that works. I have bought him a bed wetting system to alert him to get up to go pee in the middle of the night, a vibrating loud alarm to alert him up because he's a heavy sleeper. And stop fluids at 8pm. That works every time. I sent his mom the same links to get them for him. She chose not to and puts him in pull ups still. Father knows. GAL knows. Nothing changes. This is one of the examples of the lack of discipline and correction that absolutely pisses me off. They treat this child like hes glass. They hide the entire situation from him from the very begining. He has no clue what so ever what is actually happening. Literally asked by his father, "You do know why you're not allowed to be here all the time, right?" His kid replies in his little voice he uses like he's in trouble "noooo...." I stood there and said, exactly my point. He is oblivious because you all have sheltered him from what is actually happening in his own life and he can't even help you to help him at this point now. You ask him anything about his moms and it's "I don't remember" Total bullshit. Latest antic he pulled while what would've been father in law, was in town for the weekend. His kid knows what expectations are at the table. Keep your butt in the chair, not your knees in the chair, have your chair pulled up to the table, your bowl or plate close to you not far away from you, and don't play with your food and slurping. These are all common sense table manners. I'm not asking too much here or what I don't expect from my own son who has no problem abiding by these common sense manners/rules. His kid decides he wants to look right at me as he's playing with his green bean in the air over his mouth and biting it and not to mention not using his fork. He ates like a total barbarian. And he did this with his big eyes at me knowing I was annoyed by his behavior because he knows exactly already what he's doing wrong. Did he say sorry and stop doing what he was doing. Nope, his dad waited till I got up from the table before even being done because i'm not tolerating that while I'm eating. And then, his dad told him to act accordingly. Too late. He knew exactly what he did and he enjoyed that. Attention even if it's bad attention and removed me from the situation because he knows what annoys me.
Our argument was full of him guilting me about how I leave when things get hard! Or too tough. He knows that eats at me because I am a morally strong person, I raised my son on my own till I met him. His dad is in the picture but wasn't really part of his life till the last 3 years. So, he knows I an independent and I'm not afraid to struggle financially. He makes waaaay more money than I do. The house is in his name so he threatened to call the cops to have us removed at 10pm. I knew he wouldn't he didnt' have any grounds for that. My son was histerical and was having an anxiety attack. I had to put us in my sons room and put him in a shower and breathe in and out with him to calm down. Ex was still attempting to "apologize" and can't understand why I don't want to be in this realtionship anymore and why I don't want his son, his ex wife and the toxic courts in our lives anymore. He literally asked "Well you were upset and mad about the ex wife yesterday, what did she even do yesterday for you to be mad?" What?! So, I can't be upset about uprooting of my life and love life my sons life and what I built with you for the last 5 years in this crap because of her and her son? I can only justify my anger towards her if she does something that day? That is insane logic to me! No, I'm fed up and I want out of this entire sh*t show of a circus with all the clowsn and monkeys and fools! The courts have proved to me over and over that myself, and my son's safety and well being isn't considered at all. Regardless of proof. They have proved that my presense as a positive and constant for him was beneificial in the begining. They simply don't support our relationship due to me being a poc. It's blatantly obvious. They completely have supported her contempt relationship and everyone is not a poc and neither is the kid. Looks better for them I'm sure and this state is pro mom. They can do no wrong. Ever. Speaking of. The whole reason for this upcoming trial was because she dropped off the kid to the dad for his visitation and he had a watering eye. Just one. And when dad looked there was clearly a piece of something in his eye near the center! Clear as day! Mom sent a email in the parenting app and said it was allergies and took him to the dr and that's what they said?! Um, no clearly you're a liar that's obvious as hell. Not to mention this was my birthday. And I spent it in a damn hospital while they removed pieces of RUSTED METAL from his eye! Scraping it out! Dad was sending messages int he app as instructed for their communication. Mom never read them till she had to pick him up and was livid because she wasn't there and I was. That's when the mom accused me of being aggressive so I could no longer be part of anything and was restricted from even being around him. For no reason. Kid had to have surgery again and mom only wanted dad to attend. He refused because she can't be trusted and would most certaintly accuse him of something and lie and get something else done negatively impacting him and the kid. So he didn't go. GAL never went and saw him. DHS did nothing. Totally fine by everyone. No big deal. Now here we are. This woman has said literally and on recording and provided to all parties and GAL "I will make her life hell and I am relentless" And she has. This is her goal. To ruin his life, drain him of all his money as well which she's doing. Stole 40K before she fled with the kid for month. Squatted in the premarital home even though court orders said she had to move. They gave it to her eventually. She owns it now. Free and clear. She conned the church into giving her a brand new car and gas card. This woman is seriously satan on earth. And we all know these type of folks live the longest and I have zero desire to be part of her life, her sons life and his dads because his dad is just another enabler, deep in denial and he's sadly the same way. Book smart. ZERO common sense. So is the mom. Chem Engineer, high functioning mental illless and zero common sense or life skills. She has literally stolen or conned everything she owns. They both admit, she was the girl on the couch that never left at the party. He elisted in the USAF and she went with him almost costing him his career for her alochol drunkenss while on base. And, then got knocked up and literally scheduled the birth around her college exams because school is way more important to her. She did not take care of him, father did because she was studying. She was gone for days and said she was studying and father till this days says he doesn't think she was unfaithful because she is too selfish and didn't act like that with him. SMH denial again. So, the last straw was when mom attempted suicide while the kid was around with a gun and he was living in the camper near by. One day he came to get him for daycare, and they were gone. Stole money out the bank. Disappeared. Filed for divorce but he filed first. Protective order was put in place for both of them. Violated on her part. Zero done. It's just a total trainwreck.
I really like the part in your message when you said this is type of people that raise crappy people. It's true and it really resinated with me when I read that. This is something I see happening. Failure to launch because he is so dependent. Has no freinds or social skills. Zero cognitive skills for his age. He can't play sports because that involves team work and he's too selfish for that and doesn't like to lose or not doing well 100% of the time. Can't play games with him because he cheats or ruins the fun. All this kid does all day is sit in his room in the robe my grandma got him, sits in his computer chair and plays his playstation or face in his phone. Anytime you say anything to him it's "Whaaaaaat?" or "Daaaaaad" like he's singing the damn word and it's super loud and obnoxious. Even my son is like "why does he talk like that?" lol I don't know. But, his mom talks strange too because her voice fluctuates oddly due to her mental illness. It's a thing for what she has. And the co parenting therapist she was supposed to see and saw less than a handful of times picked up on the hysteronic multiple personality disorder. So, him talking like this is already showing me he's just like her. All these things remind me of her. Why on earth would I want to be around that and force myself and my kid to keep enduring this toxic behavior and enabling of it all the while my son and I are not considered in one regard? No thank you!
Last I told ex was I will be transfering the cell phones and auto insuranace over asap and I won't say a word to you or your son. I do not want to be involved with him any longer going forward. And my plan is to be out of that damn house by May 1. If not May 1 then, yay my Birthday again will be ruined yet again by his kid and mom and I will have to move on that day. I'm truly fed up and I have lost all respect for this man. When I met him. I thought he was strong, safe, warm, trusting, safe. Now, I can't stand him and he's annoying, weak, pathetic, zero back bone, and toxic.
I'm honestly thinking of looking through my job for out of state transfers to just get away from this completely. Sons dad is on board and will follow. So, I see no reason to keep living in this crap state of corruption and laziness, neglect. Can you tell I'm over it? LOL
Get it out. Now, make the plan and execute the plan to leave.
You have less than 30 days to May 1. Do not waffle. Do not backslide. Leave. As you drive away block this POS and anyone that has anything to do with him. Remaining in contact with him in any way is a stupid idea.
Take care of you.
yep
Oh, I plan to leave asap. I don't want to delay. And I have every intention of blocking him, and anyone that associates with him. I don't see a benfit of remaining in contact with someone like this.
The mess that is your
The mess that is your boyfriends life is not your mess and please put your child ahead of it all.
You are doing the right thing
You are doing the right thing, for yourself, and your son, leaving all of this behind.
You are not a horrible person for walking away, you probably should have done it a long time ago.
Look forward, and take care of yourself and your son, let the BF deal with all of his baggage on his own.
You are doing the right thing
BM one , is not going to change. Two will not go away...ever. Three. Most likely passed on her illness to her kids. Thisisa forever life with BM. Your XBF life is a big circus train. You need to get. Off and away, back to some normalness
100%
Oh, I whole heartidly agree with you there. BM is very much protected by priveledge, State, and her friend who was a State Rep. No one will hold her accountable for anything until someone is seriously injured. Which has happened in a way but that was still excused.
Her mental illness is very severe. High pitch voice fluctuations, multiple personalities and you can tell when it changes in person and in text/email. She's a total con artist as well. She plays the ditzy loud card so people like her and think she's harmless and helpless and they feel obligated to help her out because they feel bad for her. She uses the single mom card, shops for the sons clothes at Goodwill. Has never purchased his school supplies and he's in 3rd grade. She conned a church out of an entire new Prius while she had her own vehicle that is paid off by BF from their marriage. But, something was wrong with it and she didnt' want to pay for it. So she had the church feel bad for her becuase she's a single mom, going to school full time because she didn't work a day in over 7yrs. Until this past year once she got her degree and is now a Chem Engineer at TAFB in Oklahoma City. Now she's making well over 4k a month on her own, and fudging income in family court for child support and received no joke over 2k for 1 child. So that's 6k a month. She rather con a whole Church than pay for the repair for her own car. She had her son left home for hours before school so she could go to work at 530am and he goes to school at 8am. Walked home alone over a mile, had to jump a fence to get to the back door that remained unlocked all day so anyone could be inside when he arrived alone. She didn't care. No check in process with her either to let her know he made it safely. She doesn't care and it shows. GAL knew of this. Did nothing. Didn't even go and talk to the kid. She doesn't care either. BM is a total nut case and can't take care of herself or her own child. I tried to be a stable constant and help him grown into his own person but he latched onto the dependency he receives from his BM and rather be lazy and incompetent. He will end up just like her. I am fully aware and I want nothing to do with either of those individuals. And, I know it's his son. But, he's better off without that in his life. I hate to say that. But, it's how I feel and from what I've seen so far. BM knows he won't give up and she uses him to keep this game going, courts too. They just squeezed 10k out of that man for a trial they knew wouldn't happen on time and hold her accountable for all the contempt she's committed. I truly see the GAL and courts saying. "Well, the minor child has been in Mother's custody for 6mo with her new Husband without incident and I see no reason to pull minor child from Mother's custody at this time and uproot his day to day life and schedules" and that will be a total loss of 10 for BF and that was the plan all along. It's a really really fucked up situation to say the least. No matter what. We all lose because of this mentally ill person and everyone she's conned and paid off.
This BM is likely the most perfect example of a shit parent
getting coddled by the courts. Not only that, the courts, etc, probably celebrate her as some kind of paragon of success for the family courts and the State legislature. She may be batshit crazy, but she is crazy like a fox ,and incredibly intelligent. Mere mortals do not get engineering degrees. Particularly Chem E degrees. She is probably on posters all over the court house and State legislature building as an example of a poor downtrodden single mom, with a toxic XH, who made good in spite of everything against her. No wonder why her State legislator friend/sponsor is all over her like stink on the shit that she is. The courts and State legislators like polishing turds like this one. Not to minimize her accomplishments. Which are significant. However, shit is shit. No amount of polishing makes it anything else but shit. She is living that truth. To the detriment of this poor kid.
A batshit crazy BM who is a degreed Chem Engineer and is working professionally. Regardless of her endangerment of a young child. There is no way the moron bottom 10%ers of the legal profession in the idiot Harry Potter robes slinging the Fisher-Price wooden toddler's hammers are going to hold her accountable. Not until this kid is seriously damaged, or worse. If even then. This kid is about 9yo by my estimate. She has a criminal husband in the mix as well. Even with all of that there is not a snowball's chance in hell that this BM will bear any consequences until something catastrophic happens. Sadly, it will. It is only a matter of time.
I'm so glad you are leaving this dumpster fire behind you.
You're spot on my friend. Spot on!
Yes you are right in all of this. 100% her atty is always saying "she is working fulltime at her VERY professional job at Tinker Air Force Base" um, okay. Great, and she didn't work for the last 5 years full time and steadily. Fired for sexual harassment at one in the accounting dept, fired for theft from Kohls, Fired from Braums after 2 days because she didn't like it then touted she was cleaning houses full time. Never reported the income, paid under the table and filed for state assistance for her and the kid and getting 2k a month in child support, free house, free car, free school. She is a thief, liar, con artist. Latest antic was spitting on the truck during exchange at a police dept! While her friend dropped her off and watched her do it. She did this because she thought I was in the truck in that seat. She spit on my door handle clear as day. This was right after she married her criminal garbage can. lol PD provided the footage. Anything done? Nope. State Rept to the rescue. lol She is the poster mom of omg, my ex husband is ex military and he suffers from PTSD so I'm afraid of him. Total garbage. As much as we have fought, he has never laid a hand on me. Or made me feel as such. So, I highly doubt this. She is the violent one. Not him. So yeah. Nothing will change until that kid is permanently hurt or accumulates a disability and even then, I question that. Lol. Everyone in his life has failed him. And I feel like I was the one normal person he had trying to help him grown into his own person and learn skills he needs in life and he refuses because he's brainwashed and suffers from his own trauma, anxiety and mental illness. I can't help him anymore. That's not on me. I have my own son and he's great and everything I've ever wanted in a child. Truly a blessing to me. And man oh man am I grateful that he's not like this other kid!
We care
We are a bunch of strangers but we care. Please get out of there asap. Keep us updated. It will help you to post. I get the feeling you don't have a lot of support around you.
Thank you
I can't agree more. Strangers but can relate and truly understandt he position we are in. I can't thank you all enough for the time to read it and share kindness and undestanding. I have felt so alone and trapped. I have lost all of my friends. I don't have a life anymore. Work and straight home. So, this is my outlet and I'm grateful I found it. I have every intention of leaving this behind us. I just got my auto insurance done and switched over. Still looking for a place. And will have to do the cell phones next week. I just got my taxes in so that's a helping hand for sure. Plus my income to put on top of that. This is the perfect time to get out of this and I had the same opportunity last year. And didn't take it. I can't make that mistake again. Seeing my son hysterical last night broke my heart that I have us here. Gutteral pain to see him hurting like this. I have no choice right now. He's my prized joy of my life and I can't let him down and have him feel I can't and won't protect him when no one else will. I have to leave. Thank you so so so much for this supprort system. It's literally keeping me sane and functionable.
You are absolutely doing the
You are absolutely doing the right thing. My heart goes out to your son, he must have been terrified. Sending all the positive vibes I can muster for everything you need to get out of there to fall into place sooner than you hope for.
((((HUGS))))
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much! We're remaining strong! (Hugs back)