I am currently sitting in a layby all teary. Had a row with my other half. His boy 9years old just dusted cookie crumbs on the floor and I had to say what is he doing it for. He said because he is wet so they would stick to him! Dad sitting next to him said nothing.
You might think that isn't much to have a row about but disrespectful things like that happen all the time. Yesterday he saw me hoovering then walked through the house with boots on, when shoe are not allowed on in house at all. I left it to his dad to tell him off as I don't think it's my job, he said he did but gave him no punishment ie hoovering where he had walked. I do all the housework even though I work full time.
Loads more things have happened with no remorse or apology. He sometimes follows me round copying exactly what I do to the point of getting in my way when I am busy. Other things, stressful things are going on in my life which I'm not going into on here but it affects my partner.
So anyway I had to go out but had this row first and he basically said it was better to have crumbs on the carpet than leftover food in the kitchen which apparently is my job to take out.
I always leave a clean kitchen and usually clean house too on my last off day and I return on my first off day to a pile of washing up, every week.
I'm fed up I feel walked over. I know if I did everything and didn't kick up a stink over washing up etc I would be doing absolutely everything. Which thinking about it I pretty much do it all now anyway.
His boy can be lovely and polite and helpful and other times he is so horrible to be round. I try to guide him the right way but its really not my job I'm thinking as I get more and more annoyed. I just wish his dad would put him right when he does the wrong thing as by saying nothing he is condoning his behaviour.
The week after fathers day is stepmother day in my house. Forgotten. Reminded partner for the following Sunday. Nothing.
His boy has been on the shy side and it is me who has encouraged him, helped him interact with other children, cleaned up when he was sick, fed him (which I now refuse to do as he was picking food when I cooked), cleaned up after him, done his washing etc etc and I don't even get a thankyou, not one measly thankyou. I don't even expect it from the boy, from his dad would be nice.
I'm going to go home and nothing will have changed, my partner will probably shout and swear at me again but nothing new there. Any advice please. I have tried to talk to my partner about how his boy is and he is also sly and says things without his dad hearing.